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It’s hard for sure. I shared a lot of common interests with my dad, so there are many things I do that I associate with him and it always hurts to do alone.
Silly things, too. I nearly broke into tears on Christmas because my wife gifted me a box of candy that my dad loved and I wasn’t able to find anywhere.
Yeah, I totally understand. Like the musical. It's about a gay man dealing with his former wife and child and also his first new boyfriend after coming out. And it's really funny. My dad (not because he could relate, he was CisHet) absolutely loved the music and listened to the cast album all the time.
And I just watched the entire time with tears streaming down my face.
Wow. I can relate to you and Nate's conversation so closely. I lost my dad to brain cancer 2 years ago. We both enjoyed discussing the latest discoveries in astronomy. Now, I don't follow anything about it. But every time I come across new jwst image on here, my eyes start leaking.
I’m told that it is healthy to continue doing the things you associate with the person you lost, but I can’t seem to muster up any desire to do so.
My dad got me into Star Trek when I was a kid; he loved it and I idolized him, all I wanted to do was watch it with him but it came on after my bedtime and it was like a forbidden fruit. As an adult I watch The Next Generation start to finish every couple of years and I have for a long time.
Since he died I haven’t watched a single episode. The thought of it makes my stomach ache. I just can’t do it. I’m overdue for a watch and I just can’t make it happen.
Yeah, that's sounds right. I think I could force myself through it if it helps. But at the same time, I only ever followed the latest findings in order to have that conversation, so... I don't know. I guess I don't see the point (for me).
Right after he died, I got an achievement on GitHub because I contributed 2 lines of code to opencv and NASA used opencv on the Mars helicopter. I totally lost my shit. My dad would have thought that was the coolest thing even if my contribution was negligible. I guess I'm trying to say that whole part of me just feels completely meaningless now.
Lol. I don't where I'm going with all this. Stay strong dude.
Sometimes it’s cool to just write out the shit you’re trying to figure out, glad I could be a sounding board.