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Why do hardly any straight men write about sex and dating? | Imogen West-Knights
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I think this is it for me. Women vary, and what works for some dude's woman probably won't work for mine.
I think the snag is that "talk to your partner" is a boring, factual, real-world response to most questions -- which is very, very good advice... that nobody wants to hear.
A lot of the time that is the response after someone says that they did try to talk to their partner too. It is both true and a non-helpful answer in a lot of cases because the problems to discuss are caused by underlying communication problems.
That is true. You could spruce it up about specifics about how to talk about it but you are right. Most relationship problems are boring and that is the boring answer. You need some advice about the interesting parts of sex and relationships where there are a focus on the sex especially non PIV sex.
Meh. Both people not understanding what they want or how to solve a problem is entirely possible, but the solution to that is to try a few different things and talk some more. Maybe that could be the hook... Talking to couples instead of just one person. Anyway. As much as I'd love for someone to pay me to talk about sex all day, it's not happening.
I think that is true for most advice columns. I think it would need to a hook (bi, kinky, poly etc.) of some kind as well. It is interesting that it doesn't exist