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Why do hardly any straight men write about sex and dating? | Imogen West-Knights
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this post was submitted on 05 Jan 2024
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But also, we're not talking about dating, we're talking about sex, and women are the definite underdogs when it comes to sex, or at least casual sex. The stats on who gets to orgasm through casual sex are just abysmal for heterosexual women... Maybe we all would benefit from sex columns for men more than we'd like to admit.
The amount of false info around, " it's just much harder for women to orgasm" and " a lot of women simply cannot orgasm no matter what" is pretty easily disproven by orgasm rates in homosexual female couples, which leads me to believe it's the men in the equation that lead to women having trouble orgasming, not some inevitability.
And this is all women are clear underdogs in sex before you even touch on the difference in dangers to men v women with sex /sexual violence/ coersion
Are you suggesting that those are valid reasons that "women [should be] allowed to denigrate men in print"? Because that's the thing I was talking about.
Why is that your sole data point here? What about amount of sex in general?
Men have less sex in general and do it less frequently, so by that metric men are the underdogs.
Great points about the orgasm gap.