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[–] Alto@kbin.social 34 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Should be, and usually is, but if you've never been in a healthy relationship you may not expect it. Especially if you've been in an unhealthy relationship.

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 13 points 10 months ago (2 children)

I remember my husband-then-boyfriend being super happy he could just ask me to do stuff and I'd do it. I mean, yeah, of course, that's how relationships work?

Took me a long time to figure out that for most of his previous relationship, that really wasn't so obvious.

[–] Alto@kbin.social 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

That's pretty much my story as well. Early into the first healthy relationship I was in, my gf stopped by my work to drop me off a donut. Just happened to be shopping nearby and thought of me.

That shit was outright mindblowing to me at the time considering I had a negative sense of self worth. Guess it still is to an extent, but I don't get the overwhelming "oh God oh fuck I don't deserve this" feeling I used to.

E: sp

[–] oce@jlai.lu 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

How do you go from husband to boyfriend without breaking up?

[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] oce@jlai.lu 1 points 9 months ago

Ah right, the less common backward in time then.