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Lpt: DO NOT ASK A PERSON IF THEY HAVE FOUND A JOB YET
If they have and you're important enough to them, you'll know when they tell you. If they haven't told you, either it's none of your GODDAMN BUSINESS or they're still looking.
You asking just reminds them they don't have a job. And if they've been looking for awhile, it's even worse. Especially if you actually said "yet" or added in some other "it's been awhile" modifier.
Nah, sorry. If you've got a lazy teenager (or even adult) living rent free in your basement, you have every right to pressure them about finding a job.
This is one of the toughest job markets I've ever experienced for specialized labor. I was part of the tech industry layoffs last year and I busted my ass for months before I got an offer. Many people I know are going through the same thing. It was honestly more draining than my actual job and I'd occasionally reach a burnout point where I couldn't even look at listings without being consumed by anxiety and dread.
On top of that, I was still paying ludicrous rent prices because the housing market is also shite and by the end of my unemployed period my net worth had been cut by almost 50%. I'm fortunate enough to have had an emergency fund but having the option to live rent free in my parent's basement sure would have been nice.
Obviously, every situation is different. But I'd advise anyone to be aware of the situation and ask how they can support somebody going through that rather than assuming they're just being lazy and regularly pestering them.
Hopefully the child in question is actually applying for those jobs. It's a tough job market which is why you need to try extra hard.
Learn some empathy.
Uhh what
As someone who struggled for almost a year before getting their first engineering job back in the day, telling someone to “just try harder” won’t help. Failing to find anything for so long puts you in a severe depression, where you just want to give up, but you can’t because you literally need money to live. So you’re in an awful limbo of not having the energy or willpower to try and make much progress, while people that claim to love you are making you feel like a lazy piece of shit for not getting anywhere. It’s literal hell.
I didn't say "just try harder", just that hopefully they're applying to jobs since it is a tough job market where you need to try extra hard.