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That is indeed a thing that happens with progesterone. It took my sex drive and dialed it to 11. Not entirely unwelcome, but definitely troublesome at times for the same reason you mention. I don’t use my dick anymore for that very reason. Anytime I tried, it would immediately send me spiraling into dysphoria, so I stopped trying. This did create a very awkward situation where my partners have zero idea on how to properly pleasure me now, but they are receptive to my input when given (or just don’t bother, but another story).
When it boils down to it, you should probably sit down and communicate with your spouse. Let her know how you feel on the matter. Let her know what’s going on and explain how all these changes are affecting you. This is important as well simply because they may not understand how badly it is affecting your psyche and may not truly understand how your changes are affecting sexual matters. At the end of the day, nothing beats communication when it comes to your relationship with your spouse.
We have sat down and had this talk. That was and is happening. She just feels like she's letting me down, I feel like I'm letting her down, but we both are trying.
And thank you, its really comforting to know even though it's a "me problem" its not a problem with me. Just gotta figure out stuff again.
Trust me, it’s extremely difficult figuring things out again. I’m 17, almost 18 months into HRT and I still haven’t really figured it out. It’s not easy and it’s definitely an awkward time a lot of girls seem to have to go through. Just remember you’re not alone and you can make it through this.
It's so fricking hard. I'm over 30 and not understanding my body that I thought I knew for so long is rough.
I’m right there in that same boat with you, so I understand fully. I’m in my mid thirties. For me though, I don’t think I ever actually understood my body. I had a lot of trouble with sex prior to transitioning, so the troubles I have now are just a lot more forward. So it’s not affecting me nearly as much as it is you.
That’s the funny thing though, isn’t it? We think we understand ourselves all these years, but then something happens and we’re just thrown for a loop. We come to even more self discovery and our entire perspective is put on its head. Though this might not be as earthshattering as your egg cracking, it still is a large hurdle that needs crossed. At the end of the day, try approaching your problem from a different angle. Instead of penetrative sex, try something different. For me, personally, I’ve moved on to just helping my partner. I don’t use my dick. I don’t reference it. I simply focus on pleasuring them and ensuring they have a good time. Do I miss out? Sure, most times, but that’s fine for me. Though I do occasionally have orgasms from just pleasuring her, which is wild to me.
Thank you for your help. I really appreciate it.
Sure thing. I hope it helped somewhat. If you ever need help, feel free to DM me in the future.
EDIT: As a note, I'm sorry if I touched on some sensitive stuff. I don't have the best tact in the world.