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Hot and Cold (lemmy.ml)

submitted 8 months ago by electric_nan@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Does anyone else vacillate between feeling hot (attractive) and repellant?

Some days I feel like all the women around me find me desirable, and other days I feel like none of them do. I rarely feel 'in between'.

I don't really like feeling either extreme. For one thing, I don't trust either feeling! Feeling unattractive is obviously a bad feeling, but feeling ultra attractive is also bad. It leads me to uncomfortable fantasies and an inability to distinguish normal interactions from flirtation.

Does anyone else feel like this?

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[–] Azzu@lemm.ee 3 points 8 months ago

Sorry, no, I always feel pretty much as attractive as I am.

Which is extremely attractive to some people, and average or below average to most other people.

It completely depends on other people for me. I'm not attracted to myself, so my sense of attractiveness also does not come from me.

Which means I do actually "feel" differently attractive. Is this maybe what you're talking about?