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How to get over not having a good college experience? (slrpnk.net)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by jerebear39@slrpnk.net to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'm going into my last year of college and I kinda felt like I did college wrong. Like, my grades are good but everything else about college I failed at. Like socially and stuff, after 4 years I barely know anybody. I commuted(to avoid debt, and did so successfully) so maybe that's part of my problem.

But I feel college was supposed to be special time in your life and to me it has been indifferent. :/Thoughts?

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[–] deweydecibel@lemmy.ml 5 points 11 months ago

I'll be real with you:

The ideal of college you believed you would experience is only for the extroverts. If you didn't make the effort to go out and meet people and do things, it's likely you'll just be going to class for 4 years.

A lot of kids think when they go to college, a social life just happens, naturally, by proximity. No, college is an excellent time, maybe the easiest time, to really socialize. But you still have to do get out of your dorm. They're not coming inside to take you away.