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Not really we kind of both believe that you have to work hard on a relationship we have been friends since 1981 married for 39 years have 3 children 5 grandchildren and can only really remember the good times. I can’t remember a time when I didn’t think that it wasn’t worth the effort.
Work hard when there's problems, sure.
Work hard as a default mode? As a sport? No, thank you.
I’ve been with the same and only person for 12 years, I don’t really think either of us “work hard” at our relationship, bad times yeah, but the vast majority of the time everything’s good and natural .