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[–] intensely_human@lemm.ee 12 points 7 months ago

It is a rejection. No reason to bend the language.

The key thing is a rejection doesn’t have to be some judgment on your whole self worth. It’s a problem when you put so much energy into it.

Instead of waiting until you’ve written your whole life story with her in the role of The Mother of Your Children, or The One Who’s Gonna Make You Cool Via Sex, just think of her as a girl it might be fun to hang out with this afternoon. And if she doesn’t want to, no biggie.

It’s investing all this energy, turning the asking out into this big emotional event, that’s the problem.