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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 on 2024-04-17 06:02:02.
I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/Inevitable-Lab-3229, account now deleted
Originally posted to r/AITAH
AITAH: For not taking back my ex because she broke up with me because she thought I cheated?
Trigger Warnings: accusations of infidelity, manipulation, infidelity, bullying
Original Post: April 10, 2024
I 20 [M] And My Girlfriend 25 [F] have been dating since I was 18, I felt a connection with her and she was my first ever Girlfriend, My first time and first everything, Our Sex life was amazing and I wouldn't have traded her for anything.
But a few months ago, I went to this Birthday party for a friend, She was just turning 22 and my girlfriend was busy and she couldn't make it But somehow an image of me hugging (the Birthday girl & mind you my friend is lesbian, it's like my gf forgot) and videos of me giving her a piggy back ride to her cake made it's way to my girlfriend.
When I got home, she immediately confronted me and asked if I did anything, I said no and practically told her what I did and pointed out I texted her throughout the night I was out and the fact that my friend is lesbian, But it still wasn't enough and she left me.
To say the least I was heart broken and smoked some zaza and hung out with a few buddies of mine to cheer myself up and it worked a little, But 2 months later she contacted me and realized she was wrong and wanted to get back together but I declined.
She's calling me all bunch of names, saying it was a mistake and has also confessed that she slept with someone the next night after breaking it off with me and offered to even give me a free pass to sleep with someone else & that she's sorry, and now I'm sitting and wondering if I'm the AH for not taking her back.
[Edit forgive my spelling, it was almost 3AM when I made this and I needed some advice]
AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA
Top Comments
Fragrant-Reserve4832: She left to fuck that other guy. Her reasoning was bs and she knew it. Now the new guy doesn't want her. Now she wants to come back to her safe guy. Don't take her back, she is not good for you. The names she's calling you are because she feels entitled to you, to your support and help. She deserves what she has now, nothing and no one. Let her rebuild her life alone while you move on to bigger and better things.
wardenferry419: Don't. She started this drama by accusing you of cheating, she escalated this drama by breaking up, then she capped it off by having sex with someone else. Now she is regretting her mistakes. What happens once is more likely to happen again. Move on with your life. NTA.
ramk88: Lol. dont you get it
She did that because she was already cheating on you and just waiting for an opportunity to break up with you and fk him. Why do you think he was ready and waiting the very next day?
Is this the type of woman you want to give a second chance? let alone have any contact with
She will drag you down and destroy you. RUN
Ok-Map-6599: She showed you who she is - believe her. She doesn't need evidence to find you guilty of betrayal. And she showed your relationship wasn't that important to her by jumping straight to a rebound hookup. This red-flag behaviour won't be confined to this one incident, or even to just suspicion around your fidelity.
NTA. Leave her in the past where she belongs. She might have been the older one in your relationship but it sounds like you have her beat for emotional intelligence.
Update: April 10, 2024 (same day, 10 hours later)
It's been about 7 whole hours since I made that post, I haven't been able to sleep because reddit was practically blowing my phone up with notifications and My Ex is still trying to win me back, I got a few messages asking when me and her met & and even blaming me and accusing me of not saying the full story or giving her a reason to think I was, so I'm here to clear the air a bit.
Just a few hours ago after my reddit post, My now Ex Girlfriend has also confessed to me she has been texting this guy since I was 19 but The day after she broke up with me, They instantly got to fucking & got together.
I actually know the guy pretty well and to be honest he is an ass, he used to bully me as a freshman in high school and he was a senior,mostly made insults about my weight [I was a fat kid in hs but slimmed down quickly after] and he reached out to her and they got to talking.
But then he cheated on her with another girl and admitted he sent those photos to her, Just to stir up some shit and get her to break up with me.
Not gonna lie finding this out i wanted to beat this guy's ass but I decided to be the bigger person, She's been begging for hours and I have just gotten around to blocking her, Giving me a moment of peace.
Regarding on how me and my girlfriend met, I might of or might have not snuck into a party where alcohol was present, she approached me first and I was honest about my age at the time[17] but we still chatted became friends & eventually started dating a few months after i turned 18 because she and I had common interest and and was cute so I shot my shot.
We Started fucking on the third date and the rest is history after that, But during our dating period I've never hit on another girl,nor cheated and even shared my social media passwords with my gf to further prove my loyalty like she wanted and I got to see her's but I never really looked because I trusted her.
But now that I blocked her, I'm going to continue to heal and maybe later use that free pass like the comments suggested with unlimited usage.
Thanks for all your advice, I might update this but if I don't thank you for all your advice.
Silly_Southerner: So, let me get this straight.
She was entertaining this other guy for an extended period of time while you were together.
She accused you of cheating with someone she knew was a lesbian, and broke up with you for it.
She basically left you and immediately got together with and fucked him, and would likely still be with him if he hadn't cheated on her with someone else.
This other guy is an asshole you strongly dislike.
Any one of these would be reason enough to cut her off. Fucking/dating someone you know is a scumbag is enough reason to cut her off. Dumping you - especially over such a stupid and obviously fake reason (she was looking for an excuse to go jump on his dick) - is a reason to cut her off. Her spending so much time obviously setting up her next guy while she was with you is reason to cut her off.
I'm not seeing any reason to take her back, though. No reason to fight this guy over her, either; she's clearly not worth it. You're better off without her in your life.
Ruuun!!!
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