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can you help me formulate an answer to a colleague who is not my boss but feels entitled to tell me how I have to work? (linux.community)

submitted 8 months ago by permit54@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/803244

the colleague in question feels that only her way of doing things is the right one and expects me to adapt to her way of thinking and her logic. This is tiring and burdensome because I have to force me to stop doing things automatically and efficiently, but think how she wants it done and do it her way. I work worse when this happens.

There are several ways to reach the same goal and I always adapt according to the situation at hand. I do what feels logic at the time and work my way.

I already told the charge nurse charge about it but I don't know if she had a conversation with this coworker and what was said.

The message has to be neutral and polite. What do you think of this?

I feel you believe you are my boss. You are not. Stop telling me how to work. It's tiring. You have your way of doing things, I've got mine, both equally good. Should you have a problem with this, contact the charge or manager. I'm gonna go work now.

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[–] permit54@linux.community 0 points 8 months ago (1 children)

It’s a little wild that this is what you came up with trying to be neutral and diplomatic.

that's why this post is titled 'can you help me...?'

Genuinely makes me question if you’re understanding this person and your role correctly.

I only know she's not my boss and my role is the same as her.

I don't understand why you believe you know my role better than me.

I wouldn't do this over email. To be effective, the message has to be said next time she feels entitled to 'correct' me.

but, just my 2 cents

[–] kandoh@reddthat.com 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I only know she's not my boss and my role is the same as her.

They've been in the role longer than you have, that gives them seniority over you.

I don't understand why you believe you know my role better than me.

You've been purposely vague about your role so I am left to make a best guess.

I wouldn't do this over email. To be effective, the message has to be said next time she feels entitled to 'correct' me.

You should do it over email so there is a written record and no miscommunication. You could even CC your supervisor if you wajt to play hardball.

Your currently strategy is to snap at her the next time she annoys you. Not a good look for a new hire.

[–] permit54@linux.community -1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

keep assuming

[–] kandoh@reddthat.com 1 points 8 months ago

Okay you're a nurse. You should get over yourself and just do it the way the other nurse is showing you. Be humble 🫶