I feel that way. I haven't felt the need to be pre-emptively aggressive when I post here because in most communities I post to people don't tend to jump down your throat if you get 1 thing wrong or say 1 thing they don't like.

It has made me reflect on what kind of person I was when I was posting more on reddit. It's also made me feel more ok getting on reddit with my one non-banned account occasionally and making a "fire and forget" comment where I'm not quite as obsessed with getting everything right from the get-go. I will try to wait at least a few days or a week before I check for replies. So if somebody happens to get really aggressive with me, it feels less urgent and like it matters less.

I really like the vibe of Lemmy overall, and I hope we can keep it this way.