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It’s the same for women… “Keep your head up” is also super solid advice.
"YoU sHoUlD sMiLe MoRe."
This is great context. Particularly as it highlights the differences in gendered experiences. For women it's in some ways a demand for attractiveness while for men it's more of a literal command that is more likely to be used in self policing (that is men policing masculine expectations of other men). Also notable that both sentiments seem to be more likely to come from men.
As someone who presents masculine, I have gotten the "be a man" treatment from women several times. Ultimately it does come from a patriarchal standard of society, but its something that is perpetuated by everyone, consciously or otherwise. Not discounting what you are saying, but I think it's important to highlight that toxic masculinity can come from anywhere.
All your symptoms are caused by being a woman!
Half a year later: just kidding, it was cancer, too late now.