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When a person tells you that a loved one has passed, ask what the their name was and say it back. It can be awkward when that comes up and you might not know how to respond best. I’ve found that most people don’t want you to feel bad for them, but them saying their name and having a chance to talk about them is often a nice thing.
I’m in healthcare so death comes up a lot. “David. That’s a nice name. Where was he from?”
Also healthcare here. I do something similar, both for already dead family members and critically ill patients.
I don't so much focus on the name, but ask a general "can you tell me about them?"
It reinforces to people that you care and helps forge a connection.