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Can you explain to us old farts what this actually means? Like I thought I knew what all the individual words mean but aren't non-binary and girl mutually exclusive? And isn't trans implied by enby anyway?
I'd guess the shitty comments are from people dismissing this as a pile of buzzwords, hopefully if they can understand better then they'll be less shitty :)
imma assume you posted this in good faith (in which case you should read my other comment) and explain as best as i can:
non binary and girl aren't mutually exclusive because, among other reasons, non binary is a very large umbrella term (i'm he/they for example, so i could be described as an 'enby guy').
trans and enby are two distinct groups:
you can be trans, you can be enby, and you can be both.
for example i don't consider myself trans because i don't want a different gender than the one i have, i just wanted to do it differently.
as a rule of thumb this whole gender stuff is so loosely defined that it's best to just accept that there will be things you don't get and move on.
the important part isn't understanding someone, it's not treating them like shit when you don't
Kinda a dick response to what was a considerately, sensitively asked question.
the dickishness is likely due to that last paragraph:
this makes it seem like the fault for the chuds behavior relies on op for not being clear enough with their labels, as opposed to with the chuds deciding that someone's chosen self descriptors are somehow incorrect.
this is not helped by how bigots excuse their behavior as just wanting a Fair and Rational Discussion™, ignoring that what they want to "discuss" about is the validity of someone's whole existence.
It certainly isn't a paid role, but in my experience those who seek to marginalize often do so with a whole lot of ignorance involved.
You continue to be under no obligation to help educate the blind, but if you knew going into this that some people would have comments and questions about the impressive number of labels you've applied to yourself, it just feels like you're setting yourself up to get mad on the internet at this point. Otherwise why bother including them in your post at all?
You also were not required to answer at all...
Honestly this hostility is off putting.
Evidence that marginalized individuals are just as capable of asshol-ish behavior as the majority.
typical
But “non-binary girl” was not included in your description. But I guess one could have searched the other words.
Anyways, new instance sound cool. Hope it goes well. Also, fuck threads, amen.