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I've actually skipped work just to help a homeless guy get his beard trimmed. Bought him pizza too. Kinda hard to get anywhere in life when you look like shit.

Be kind to the homeless, they just need a helping hand here and there.

What would you do?

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[โ€“] random_character_a@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

There are some cultural differences here that affects the equation. If homelessness is taken care of that doesn't mean there are no people on the streets. There will however be a a certain "enrichment" in what type of people are there.

Our constitution demands that everyone must have a life worth human dignity. If somebody looses everything, gouvernment provides housing and funds for minimum standards of living.

So for that reason, only ones that are on the streets are the ones who can't/won't take care of themselves, even if these things are given to then, but are not so far gone they could be institutionalized. Everyone is still free to get hammered and be on the streets.

Very often these people have long history on substance abuse and have degraded to a level of a child. Police often picks them up, so they can be washed, because they often soil themselves. They are not dangerous, because then they would be institutionalized, but they are very smelly and often vocally abusive.

Would I open my door to these people? No.

I would give then food and water if needed, but these are not things they ask for.

[โ€“] EleventhHour@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

This has happened on a few occasions, Iโ€™ve always fed and bathed the person, on a few occasions,Iโ€™ve let the person stay with me for a little while, and once I dated a guy for a little while.

This has ended with mostly positive results. And these people didnโ€™t really come knock on my door (we usually met out-and-about).

[โ€“] RBWells@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)

We bring food sometimes to the local homeless guy but he doesn't seem to want anything else.

This answer for me would really depend on a lot of factors. I don't want a homeless roommate who won't leave and can't work, don't want a mentally unstable person in the house with my daughters. So random guy probably not. I'd bring him food and a gallon of iced water and say I could not let him in. If it was the guy we know from under the bridge, and husband home, probably would let him shower and give him some of husband's clothes to wear, sure.

But we HAVE had homeless people stay with us for a time if we knew them, quite a few times. Wandering guys who just didn't live anywhere. Couch surfing people.

[โ€“] over_clox@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I've been 'homeless' after my father passed away 10 years ago, after paying 6 years of his land taxes. I've lost roughly 95% of everything I've ever owned, after paying 6 years of land taxes and bills.

I've been through some shit, so I have a kind heart towards others suffering the struggle...

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[โ€“] HarriPotero@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I'd wash his clothes, too.

[โ€“] over_clox@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

I actually would have offered that as well, but honestly I was staying at my mother's house at the time, so using the indoor facilities was kinda out of the question.

But the hair clippers were mine, so I just ran an extension cord out the back door to trim him up, and then we went and I bought us both some pizza.

I did what I could, always thinking like what if I was in their situation?

[โ€“] AceFuzzLord@lemm.ee 2 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Had something similar in 2020 happen. Things happened and it ended with him and my mom getting into a heated argument as to why he can't get help from police or some other resources (which I can't remember). Ended with my mom pretty much telling the guy not to return.

He played the part of a nice person, but in the end he was trouble. So I think my answer to this would probably be not to trust them.

[โ€“] over_clox@lemmy.world 3 points 4 months ago

Oh, indeed, never fully trust any stranger. But do be willing to give people a helping hand, and sometimes a cautious chance.

I've even met a homeless woman that took care of my friend's car when he fucked up and got arrested LOL! No joke, this woman was legit. She didn't exactly know where to take the car, and it took us like 2 days to find her, while my buddy was still locked up, but she never left town and we found her at the local McDonald's.

She was quite honest and decent about it too, apparently my buddy told her to take it, so it wouldn't get impounded. So, even though she was homeless and all, she still had honor and decency. And yes, we returned his car back where he was staying.

We still see the lady around here and there, seems she bounces from place to place and occasionally finds work. She might be homeless from time to time, but she's genuinely honest and does what she can.

[โ€“] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I'm not a hairdresser and wouldn't have confidence trimming a guy's beard. Other than that, I'd let him in, get to know him a little, maybe give him a salad with water, and yeah the shower would be on the house, you think I'd charge for a scent cleanse using Earth's most abundant resource? I just hope he brought clothes, unless he doesn't mind wearing women's clothes.

[โ€“] over_clox@lemmy.world 2 points 4 months ago

Meh, I just put the 3/8" guard on the clippers and simply trimmed him down. Easy enough when you're not going for any style at all except short hair.

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