vegan

um like i just dont talk politics with my date

The date:

Over time I've found that slaughterhouse talk is just very off-putting to non-vegans. Yes they enjoy the fruits of indefensible acts of torture and murder that would give them PTSD in five minutes if they were witness to it. People are very good at compartmentalizing this if they've been omnivorous since they were born. There is an endless parade of horrors one can find in this world inflicted on both animals and humans. I would not bring any of them up on a date.

If you're actually compatible with an omni (it's possible!) veganism is a sexually transmitted infection so it's probably the best way to convert people anyway.

It's doubly important for me because food is just a love language for me. Having a cute girl snuggle up to me while i'm cooking stir fry for us, taking her out to a nice restaurant, making a big breakfast when she's stayed overnight, these are pretty integral to my dating life and that gets soured when people start whining where the meat is.

It's admittedly gotten much better since i came out and stuck to only dating other trans girls, everybody i've been with in the last 3 years was either vegan herself or flexitarian and perfectly happy with entirely vegan options. That's not necessarily a trans thing, it may be largely because my bubble within the queer community is a lot more progressive than average, but it really makes things easier when you're centering like-minded people in your life. ofc that gets a lot harder when you're out on the apps instead, and don't get me started about the stories that the bi, pan and straight girls i know keep telling. When you check for red flags and wonder if somebody's values are compatible with yours, you're already doing loads better than most dudes out there, it's honestly baffling how many men seem to flat-out refuse to read profiles before they start DMing and just wildly take shots in the dark at everybody that looks remotely hot to them.

its nice to read about you taking care of yourself in this way :)

good luck on your dates

I don't think I could date a carni. The thought of kissing someone with dead body parts in their mouth is extremely revolting.

Not only is she a loud and outspoken vegan, but she's inspired me to be more vocally annoying online about veganism too.

She's also an atheist, a leftist, and does not want children.

Love her 💚

Fun fact: a big reason why I broke up with my ex is that she's an apologist, even though she excluded animal products from her life and has done so for 7 years. It started to seem like she just personally found animal products disgusting, not that she had any actual ethical position against carnism. It was like she believed it's okay for others to be carnists as long as they aren't disgusted by animal flesh and secretions. That alone was too much incompatibility for me, so my current partner is most certainly a breath of fresh air.

How many women was she?