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[–] FiniteLooper@lemm.ee 44 points 1 year ago

It’s like when I want to see what time it is so I pull out my phone, look at the screen, and put it back. Then I realize I didn’t actually look at the time so I have to do it again.

[–] DustyNipples@lemmy.world 24 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I feel like I'm so preoccupied with trying to act like a normal person my brain can't save new data.

[–] BruceDoh@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

Instead of trying to act like a normal person you should just try to be yourself, only better.

[–] Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 year ago (1 children)

In my experience, it's literally impossible to recall someone's name after you ask them what their name is.

That's science, of some sort...

[–] adespoton@lemmy.ca 3 points 1 year ago

The way to remember it is to immediately use it after they say it, either just repeating it, or using it in the next sentence. And then use it again when you say goodbye to them.

There’s no guarantee it’ll stick, but it’s much more likely than just trying to remember it.

[–] stochasticity@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago

His name is Kermit.

I got u

[–] JIMMERZ@lemm.ee 9 points 1 year ago

“Remember their name, remember their name…”

Person says name.

“…remember their… wait I missed it!”

[–] Empyreus@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

I actively try to be better about this now, asking waiters or people you come across in every day life helps build the habit.

[–] aeternum@kbin.social 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I find it helps to repeat their name back to them, straight away.

[–] Cabrio@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I've been working at new job for a month, this week is the first week I remembered all 5 of my immediate co-worker's names. It took me three weeks before I got a grasp on my boss' name.

[–] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 year ago

Or what’s even worse, when you only remember half the name and keep wondering if you heard “Eve” or “Eva” and just mumble your way through pronouncing their name every time.

[–] fidodo@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

"Don't forget, don't forget, don't forget, wait, what did they say?"

[–] Ilflish@lemm.ee 4 points 1 year ago

Unless I talk to you for two weeks on the dot, your name will never be associated with your face. Luckily, people's names never come up and I've only worked at places that have contact books with profile pics

[–] altima_neo@lemmy.zip 3 points 1 year ago

I'm the same way. It takes me a few tries to remember names

[–] SeeMinusMinus@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

Lets just give everyone name tags.

[–] SoGrumpy@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The trick is to ask them their name. If they reply "Smith", then you say "Yes I know it's Smith, but it seems I can't recall your first name", so he says "John". Or if he says his complete name straight away, you say "Yes I knew it was John, it was the Smith I couldn't remember"

Bingo, you have their complete name. Works the other way round too.

[–] gogozero@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 1 year ago

if germane i like to ask how their name is spelled in case i need to email them later. then i dont need to admit i forgot or until then never cared to know

[–] reflex@kbin.social 2 points 1 year ago

What works for me is I ask for both the first and last name, and then I end up forgetting the last name.

[–] lemmy@lemmy.stonansh.org 1 points 1 year ago

That is so true

[–] Holzkohlen@feddit.de 1 points 1 year ago

I just call em some made up name. No one got offended yet. If they were to get offended they are probably a douche anyways.