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Been getting into the local scene recently and I feel like everybody else has a much more emotional and spiritual connection to kink play than me and I'm trying to understand more. See if I'm missing something that could potentially be mine as well

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[–] CDommunist@hexbear.net 15 points 2 months ago (1 children)

It's just childhood trauma all the way down

[–] GaveUp@hexbear.net 1 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

not childhood specifically but yea, trauma was why I accepted the invitation to check kink out

[–] FlakesBongler@hexbear.net 11 points 2 months ago

For me, it's like a seasoning

Sure, you could have some beans out of the can, but you put a little garlic and onion, some ground chili's and baby, you got yourself a stew goin' on

[–] imogen_underscore@hexbear.net 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

it's not something I've ever really put together structured thoughts on, but I definitely strongly feel that kink can be transcendental and fulfilling and affirming, even healing, like almost nothing else. I also believe it doesn't necessarily have to be sexual in nature.

[–] SpiderFarmer@hexbear.net 2 points 2 months ago

For me it was just a time to feel 'normal'. Having community and people to trust is nice, as well as new experiences and great moments for happy chemicals.

It might just be that you need time. It's more than just 'flying'.