Hi! Trans person here. Your heart is in the right place, but this post is poorly written. You haven't even given examples of how this is currently/could be applied. Some people are just that uneducated about trans people. If they're leading questions that invalidate us, sure. But otherwise what's the harm? For 196 there's no reason to ask about that stuff but the whole instance?? Your call in the end but I can think of a few ways this could go bad just from prior experience in other communities.
this post was submitted on 20 Jul 2023
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What caused this post?
A kerfuffle: https://lemmy.world/post/1893561
That was underwhelming
That linked to post was a response to an existing ongoing discussion that brought transphobes out of the woodwork. That post also had transphobic replies, and there were multiple discussions going on at once with active transphobes.
It was the ongoing transphobia that occurred around the initial discussion that prompted my post, not any specific single post.
I remember seeing the original post, it was in response to being asked if they’d date a trans person wasn’t it?
It was, yes.
But you need to be aware, cis people talking about the reasons they are valid in not wanting to fuck trans people is something we see all day, every day. It's normalised for people to just volunteer how unfuckable they find us.
And whilst that discussion might have some valid spaces in which it can be talked about, a meme community on an instance run by two trans women is not that space
The original post was an image with the text "Hey you, straight dude: are you attracted to women or to femininity?"
I posted a response that said I like boobs & pussy, and then someone (who turned out to be ace, and just was curious) asked if I would date a trans man.
Yeah, I know. I saw the context.
Your post was removed because I wanted that whole line of conversation dropped, not specifically because of your single post.
Also, it's worth noting that your post was not the trigger for this thread.
WHAT THE FUCK (RESPECTFULLY) FUCK UNAMBIGUOUS SUPPORT AGGRESSIVE SUPPORT TILL THE DAY I DIE MOTHERFUCK*R 🏳️⚧️
But muh discussion with both sides! 🤨🤔 That's not very tolerant of you, guess we know whose the real baguette now. 😤
I still have no idea how these communities are set up structurally. That said I'm quite pleased to see this as the community baseline. Stumbling into inclusivity is the best kind of stumbling.
Sad to hear that's been happening on Blahaj. Full and unambiguous support from me! 🐝
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Curious question, what made 196 so popular in the trans community? I have always seen some trans memes on Reddit, but it seems the ratio is even higher here (and some anti police stuff, idk I'm not american).
Is it because this is a place you can express yourself freely on the web, or is there something more to it?
It was the only (as far as I know) general shitposting community on reddit that wasn't casually racist/homophobic/transphobic, because of this a lot of LGBTQ+ people flocked to it for their memes.
Honestly, I have no idea. We ended up with this community during the massive reddit migration because we are a queer focused instance, but I'm not sure of the history. I didn't even know the community existed before that :)
iirc, for awhile the first and only user flair available on r/196 was "trans rights"
if you've found a few legitimately bad actors here, then ban them and move on. don't burn the place down.
when i see someone from one space advise about how to safely access procedures or drugs that are illegal in some country, and then i tab to 196 to see that same person on the receiving end of the most harshly worded accusations of transphobia, i'm sort of at a loss for how to respond to that.
No one is burning anything down.