I swear I almost wish I had ADHD. At least then I could say it's not 100% my fault for being an absolute worthless failure. "Unfortunately" that's all on me.

[–] dipshit@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

worthless failure can be part of the diagnostic criteria. (not really but somewhat) you may still want to talk with a professional. you have likely developed coping strategies.

[–] meliaesc@lemmy.world -3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Everyone is born with their own standard human brain. Just because we have named some groupings of behaviors and thought patterns, and can sometimes even point to specific causes and structural or molecular differences... it doesn't mean anyone has an "excuse," just an explanation.

People with ADHD, heck even people with TBIs, are still 100% at fault, because it's their own brain. The good news for you, is that you have more opportunity to feel fulfilled than they ever will.

[–] BeAware@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

It's not "our fault" cause if it was up to me, I'd have been born into the 2nd richest family, 2nd smartest man in the world, 2nd biggest dick etc. Yet here we are. ADHD and hydracephalus from birth. Definitely not born with a "normal" brain.

However, it IS our responsibility to deal with it before it becomes a problem for others.

[–] RobertoOberto@sh.itjust.works 2 points 9 months ago

The difference between fault and responsibilty is definitely something I plan to teach my kids from an early age.

If someone rear ends me when I'm driving safely and following all the rules of the road, it's not my fault. But it's still my responsibility to get insurance information, arrange for car repair and transportation, reschedule appointments, etc. I don't get to just walk away and hope everything takes care of itself.

It's just one of those unfortunate facts of life. Everyone has to handle things that aren't their fault sometimes.

[–] meliaesc@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I think responsibility is a much better word than fault. Not everyone will be able to deal with their challenges, but what I really meant was, this is your brain and no one else's.

[–] BeAware@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 9 months ago

Absolutely. Good on you realizing you made a bad choice of word there. Most people would double down.👍

Definitely think responsibility is the better word.

Have a good day, friend.

[–] HerbalGamer@sh.itjust.works 4 points 9 months ago

Oh that can still happen if you're diagnosed early on, trust me.

[–] Daft_ish@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

I just want to be able to interact with people with out feeling like I am complete garbage.

[–] Coldgoron@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

Same.

[–] Pantherina@feddit.de 1 points 8 months ago

"You are so smart, if you would just be more constant!"

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