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[–] EdibleFriend@lemmy.world 39 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

Just had to Google it myself. His ex has released a bunch of texts supposedly from him showing that he was pretty crazy towards her. Apparently she's a surf instructor? He was demanding that she never post anything on her Instagram in her swimsuit.. which was a one piece even.. and that she wasn't allowed to Surf with men among other things.

In the grand scheme of things I guess it could be worse when it comes to things coming out about celebrities but still pretty disappointing cuz I like him.

[–] 7teslapony@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

You can’t tell from her point of view only whether or not what he asked of her was fair. And even if she did feel it was unfair then they weren’t compatible and that’s okay.

[–] EdibleFriend@lemmy.world 35 points 2 years ago (2 children)

I'm still taking all this with a grain of salt because there's no proof any of this is real. I don't jump on the hate bandwagon. But no matter what if you enter into a relationship with a surf instructor and then after the fact tell her she's not allowed to Surf with men that's just crazy

[–] 7teslapony@lemmy.world 15 points 2 years ago (1 children)

That there is a good point haha

[–] EdibleFriend@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago

I am a very wise man

[–] ToastyWaffles@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 2 years ago

Yeah so break up with him and move on. I don't see why you need to leak the texts to the internet and cause internet psychos to go off on him. But it is what it is. Stuff like this is always going to happen on the internet.

[–] MadgePickles@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 2 years ago

The insecure to controlling pipeline

[–] 7teslapony@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

My take is that an ex girlfriend is bored? Bitter? And randomly posting everything she can and calling him a misogynist and a bad human controlling boyfriend etc etc, but who does that? The crazy is oozing out of her. Jonah has been in therapy and presented her with clear boundaries that he wanted in a relationship, he didn’t threaten or disrespect her. I don’t agree that it is anti feminist or misogynistic to be uncomfortable with certain behaviors that to him represent a red flag. Don’t swallow wholesale the rhetoric that women must be allowed to be empowered by posting sexy pictures of themselves, because that is not how all people feel and it certainly does not work for all relationships.

[–] EdibleFriend@lemmy.world 26 points 2 years ago (1 children)

The pictures are one thing but telling a surf instructor that she's not allowed to Surf with men? I would call that just a tad bit overboard

[–] PreachHard@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

What are the actual content of the texts about it? Was he like 'you can't ever surf with a dude.' or was it more 'I don't like you going on solo surfing adventures with a guy'

Idk just stinks of awful insecurity regardless of whether there was red flag behavior going on from her.

Clearly they needed to not be together and Jonah had more growing to do. Airing it out is a bad look imo unless he's straight up being abusive levels of controlling.

[–] EdibleFriend@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Either way. In any relationship saying you cant do things with men period is just crazy controlling behavior. Also the pic thing is honestly pretty over the top as well. You can go look at her instagram yourself if you want. Nothing is 'sexualized'. Its a surfer at the beach. Hell half the time she is wearing 1 pieces.

[–] PreachHard@lemmy.world 3 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah I agree that is crazy. There's surely a line thought right? Cos I wouldnt be ok with my girl going clubbing with one dude lol.

[–] EdibleFriend@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Yeah that is definitel a tad different then saying the hobby you turned into a career is now required to be only with women.

[–] PreachHard@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

Yeah defo unhealthy and massive red flag. Tbh that's the point you should break it off immediately. And as a dude if you feel so scared of what might happen usually it means you need to work on something yourself before trying out the whole commitment idea.

[–] PeachMan@lemmy.one 3 points 2 years ago

Sounds like he was just a dick to his girlfriend, not really that surprising. Always got weird vibes from that guy, even though he's funny. But it's not like he deserves to go to prison or anything AFAIK.

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