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What is a gender neutral replacement for man, guys, buddy, etc? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by MajorMajormajormajor@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So I've realized that in conversations I'll use traditional terms for men as general terms for all genders, both singularly and for groups. I always mean it well, but I've been thinking that it's not as inclusive to women/trans people.

For example I would say:

"What's up guys?" "How's it going man?" "Good job, my dude!” etc.

Replacing these terms with person, people, etc sounds awkward. Y'all works but sounds very southern US (nowhere near where I am located) so it sounds out of place.

So what are some better options?

Edit: thanks for all the answers peoples, I appreciate the honest ones and some of the funny ones.

The simplest approach is to just drop the usage of guys, man, etc. Folks for groups and mate for singular appeal to me when I do want to add one in between friends.

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[–] BassTurd@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

It depends on the group and setting. I use folks and y'all a lot, but don't put a heavy southern drawl on it. Sometimes I say homies or party people. Really, in an unprofessional setting I try about anything I can that could be considered a term to group people. I jumped in a Discord call the other day with two of my buddies already in there and opened by referring to them as bromosexuals. I try to have fun with it but professionally, folks or everyone is what I use most.

[–] sobriquet@aussie.zone 3 points 8 months ago

All, team, friends, everyone, folks (preferably prefixed with “howdy”)…

[–] Colour_me_triggered@lemm.ee 3 points 8 months ago

Youse fucking wallopers!

[–] Mr_Blott@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

"Yous badly-aimed batches of ejaculate"?

[–] aspensmonster@lemmygrad.ml 3 points 8 months ago

Comrade ✊

[–] MonsiuerPatEBrown@reddthat.com 3 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

chum

comrade

[–] drislands@lemmy.world 3 points 8 months ago

Pal, bud, friendo, sport, tiger, chief, boss.

[–] mutter9355@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Carbon-based life forms

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[–] dillydogg@lemmy.one 3 points 8 months ago

Everyone, you all, y'all

[–] JadenSmith@sh.itjust.works 2 points 8 months ago

I just call everyone "man" and "dude", irrespective of gender/sex ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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