You guys have friends?
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Friends you say?
Does mid 30s count as young?
All my friends slowly dropped out of my life one-by-one in my 20s. Last time I saw a friend was 2015. It's just my girlfriend and me now.
36, it's me my girlfriend and my cats. I have one friend from highschool I see two or three times a year. Just so busy with work and everything else there's really not much time, and I do physical labor so by the weekend I just wanna hang at home and relax
GF wow
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I'm 28 and I see my let's say best friend around 3-4 times a year, another one lives abroad, same frequency. There are a few friends I got through my girlfriend, we are seeming them more, once a month at least.
I am sad that there a few friends I lost contact with, mostly because we are lazy to get in contact and meet.
I'm 30 and talk to my friends over Discord pretty much every evening and see them roughly every 2 weeks.
27, I am usually playing games online with my friends and family every night. We will usually meet in person 1-2 times a week to watch movies or play board games.
How I do it? Obviously some weeks are more busy than others, but I will set aside a couple hours to atleast organize and get lunch with my friends.
24 and I live with my best friend, safe to say I see him too often
26 here and none of my friends live in the same city as me. My best mate and his partner are about a 2 hour drive from us. We play games online a lot though, but we don't see each other in person very often anymore, maybe every few months.
My partner has a lot of friends in town so we go out with them every now and then; maybe monthly.
I also have a dnd group with my college friends and we play online about every week but they all live across the country so I only see them in person maybe once a year.
Not exactly young adult but I'm 35 and see friends almost weekly. If not in person I at least chat/voice chat with some of them.
I don't have kids, currently dating someone with 2 boys though. I don't take any overtime at work but I have online classes at night so I plan on dropping my hours by half. Also, I don't bring any work home with me. I separate the 2, religiously. (I am unionized, makes it easier to do so)
I live in a small city, far from any metropolitan area, people are so much more friendlier here.
IMO, it's all about hobbies. My hobbies align with most of my friends and I have more than one circle of friends.
I moved over 20 times in my life, different cities and all. So I know how to make new friends, I honestly think it's a skill. At the same time, friendship goes both ways, if you're the only one putting the work on the friendship, it's not really gonna work.
I have friends working on their PhDs and even post-PhDs (or whatever it's called) and they usually have time to see me / friends 3 or 4 times a month.
So yeah, I have a fulfilling social life, it's not like that all year round mind you, things change and people need breaks and what not sometimes.
Mid twenties here, and it's just my girlfriend, me, and her dog. I talk to my family sometimes, and hers, but that's about it. Her friends and us are trying to get a D&D group going, but ¯_(ツ)_/¯ between life and work, it's hard to find the time.
I'm 24 and I see my best friend every few weeks, my other friends every few months if that.
I almost never see friends in person since Covid. Not because I'm paranoid about Covid, we just lost contact during that whole period.
So now I have two gaming friends I speak to regularly from different parts of the UK, and the rest are friends I've made online.
I talk to them weekly at worst- I play dnd with them every Sunday, but we play online.
Actually physically seeing them in person? Maybe once a month.
I am 24 and I see my friends at least once or twice a week. Its a group of around 10-20 people that hangs out together whenever we have time. My house is very much set up for entertaining and people are welcome to come over any Friday or Saturday.
It all depends on who is busy, I won’t necessarily see any one person every week or every month, but I will see some of them.
Like 4 to 5 times a year..?
My friends live within a 2 minute walk from me so a few times a week
My whats?
When I was in my mid 20s ten years ago I see my friends about once a week. Not always the same friends but would try and do something social. If it’s not friends then family or dates. It’s the most fun decade so make the most of it.
I'm 25. I'm doing PhD, so my workplace is my University, and that basically means I see my friends most days, even if briefly. We go out on most weekends too. The only ones I can't see often are my friends from my hometown. I can only see them maybe once a year. But they are some of my closest friends, and we keep in touch via a Telegram group.
I am not so young but I have always seen my friends once a week for the better part of my adult life. Basically we always make an effort to organise things, sometimes weeks out, sometimes it's completely impulsive (and they don't always work out) - from a small breakfast catch up, or a big weekend away, and everything in between!
Not so young anymore, but I make the effort. Some are slow in getting back or organising stuff; having a car really really helps. If I wanted to see them once a week or more, I'd have to live in the same area.
At least once a week as we mostly all still live in the town we grew up in.
There's about 8 of us in our late 20s-30s and my partner and I see at least 2 of them every weekend. None of us have any kids so that probably helps, easy enough to fit it in our schedule