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I'm a trans girl 🏳️‍⚧️ !! (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 7 months ago by kaityy@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/mtf@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I've never really felt fully comfortable being open about myself on big platforms like Reddit, but on here it feels a lot safer, especially since adopting better digital hygiene.

So I'm just kinda saying it explicitly for the first time that I'm a trans girl. I like myself, I like my body, even if it's not perfect yet, and I like being pretty. I'm even slowly coming out more and more in real life too! Idk, everyone congratulate me or something haha

Things are hard, but I like how accepting the federated side of the internet has been so far to me.

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[–] ICanDoHardThings@lemmy.ca 32 points 7 months ago

Congratulations! 💐 Do you know how few people can say they like themselves and their bodies? Good for you for doing the hard work to be able to say that!

[–] androidul@lemmy.ml 23 points 7 months ago

as long as you feel good and you love yourself that’s what matters, these are healthy thoughts.

Keep it up 😎

[–] Pencilnoob@lemmy.world 17 points 7 months ago

Congrats Kaityy, you go girl! No matter where your journey takes you and who you discovery yourself to be, I hope that you are always able to love yourself. When others are cruel, may you turn around and love them back with the same love we have for you. Life is a hard road, but feel the strength of every one of your grandmothers give you courage to lift your head up to face the new dawn. May all of their combined compassion, love, wisdom, and bravery be imbued in you, their newest daughter, and our newest sister, forever.

[–] Thade780@lemmy.world 15 points 7 months ago

Welcome! 🥰

[–] cetvrti_magi@lemmy.world 14 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Congrats, I'm happy for you. Good luck on your journey.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 12 points 7 months ago

I like myself

Congratulations at winning life. Happy for you.

[–] LadyAutumn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 7 months ago

Congratulations Kaity, so proud of you 😊🥳 we're happy to have you in our community!!

[–] xilliah@beehaw.org 12 points 7 months ago

🩷🤍🩵🩷🤍🩵🩵🤍🤍🩵🤍🩵🩷🩷🩷🩵🤍🤍

[–] agent_flounder@lemmy.world 11 points 7 months ago

Congrats!!

[–] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 7 months ago

Yay! Congratz Kaityy ! Welcomee 🥰

[–] Allero 11 points 7 months ago

You go, girl! Congrats on coming out here! You are loved :)

[–] Varyk@sh.itjust.works 11 points 7 months ago

Congratulations

[–] herorobb@beehaw.org 11 points 7 months ago

Hello Kaityy. Congratulations. You did good.

[–] tanja@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 7 months ago

gg wp 😸

Proud of you ✨🎉🏳️‍⚧️

You got this 🌸

[–] Semivir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 7 months ago

So happy for you!

Seems like you got the identity part figured out. The hard part is getting to feel comfortable being yourself within your environment. This part of the internet is a safe place, but it also provides a false sense of security. Real life is where the real battle is, and a lot of us are probably going through the exact same thing where real life is either too scary or too unfriendly for you to feel comfortable as yourself right now. At least that's what it's like for me.

Digital hygiene is actually the reason I started a dedicated account here, to fully express myself on some topics that I might not want others digging through my post history for. Though the ultimate goal is no longer needing this account.

Spend as much time as you can doing stuff that makes you feel pretty. Everyone deserves to look in a mirror and to smile at their own reflection!

[–] VelvetStorm@lemmy.world 10 points 7 months ago

Not just a trans girl but also just a girl!

[–] skvlp@lemm.ee 9 points 7 months ago

Hi, thanks for sharing and yay for diversity 😃

[–] aberrate_junior_beatnik@midwest.social 9 points 7 months ago

Congratulations!

[–] Caitlyynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 7 months ago

Hiii, thats a cool mane u got there <3

[–] cupcakezealot@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 7 months ago

I like myself, I like my body

in the end that's the only person whose opinion matters :)

i'm glad that you can feel safe enough here too! <3

[–] mortimerkahn@sh.itjust.works 6 points 7 months ago

So happy for you!!

[–] Luminia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 7 months ago

Yay! I’m really happy for you! It’s wonderful to be able to like yourself so congratulations on that! 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵

[–] sircalico@lemm.ee 5 points 7 months ago

That's so cool! Don't listen to the haters, they're just jealous :3

[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 5 points 7 months ago

same 😎

[–] Noodle07@lemmy.world 5 points 7 months ago

We're glad you're doing well!

~~so uh are you single?~~

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[–] SuddenDownpour@sh.itjust.works 12 points 7 months ago (2 children)

You can be biologically-homo sapiens all you want, but you should grow up out of your delusion that you're mentally capable to do anything other than peeling potatoes.

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[–] marcie@lemmy.ml 9 points 7 months ago (2 children)

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[–] Floshie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 7 months ago (18 children)

Oof your comment is wrong in sooooooo many dimensions

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[–] VinnyDaCat@lemmy.world 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Dude what is wrong with you?

If someone wants to transition then let them transition. It's not brainwashing children considering there's many people in their lives for them to look up to and make their own decisions based on.

Also, men have no obligations to be fathers, nor do women have any obligations to be mothers. People are allowed to be happy, and not act like animals, constantly breeding for the sake of continuing their lineage.

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[–] Bloom@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

I see it a bit differently. I think your role in life is whatever you define it to be. Whatever makes you happy.

Would you say any infertile woman is not a woman? Did they fail life because of it? Would you say people that don’t want children are neither men nor women? Is there a difference between being female and male? Sure! But not being able to bear a child doesn’t disqualify you as a woman. Gender is just a construct society made up.

It’s good to question your identity, so you can be who you truly are.

Edit: No reply.. I was hoping for a good discussion, but I guess that’s out of the question as you did reply with insensitive and superficial comments to others 🤷‍♀️ You can do better

[–] Duke_Nukem_1990@feddit.de 7 points 7 months ago (5 children)

Fuck off TERF. Weak ass sorry excuse for a vegan.

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[–] sircalico@lemm.ee 5 points 7 months ago (7 children)

Ur such a troller

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[–] bier@feddit.nl 4 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Yeah let's focus on trans people, and ignore all the religious bullshit we feed our kids, or all the violence we show them. Its mind boggling how Americans are afraid of some nudity, but simultaneously show kids cartoons where violence and murder are just normal.

I worry about the poor boys that don't like women and have an idiot like you as a parent.

I have a boy and trust me boys are not growing up thinking they are women. There are more people in jail/prison in the USA than there are trans people, so now all boys are growing up confused thinking they should be in prison?

[–] Silentiea@lemm.ee 2 points 7 months ago

Agreed on basically all points, but tbf there are more people imprisoned in the us than an awful lot of more popular categories than trans folks.

[–] ClockNimble@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

So what is your take on when someone with XX chromosomes experiences standard expression of FOXL-2 for part of the gestation, but stops functioning before finishing primary sexual characteristics?

How does that fit under a biological classification? Are they meant to bear children? Be a father? Will they ever be a boy? A woman?

Furthermore, are there other genes that inform your thesis to the above statements? How would their expression through developmental stages possibly affect the expressed sexual characteristics in both normal and impeded function?

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[–] ClockNimble@lemmy.world 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago)

Congratulations! Skirt go skinny.

Also, very important. Pockets are a rarity >.<

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