[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 0 points 20 hours ago

Its in the rules. Dems got embarrassed because they assumed Republicans would play fairly. Which over decades, it has been proven, no they do not.

They left it wayyy too late in the term to do it. If you leave anything to the last minute, you have no margin for error.

What's your excuses for why it was fine to leave it until last minute?

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Do you want to tell me who you think was responsible for the 6 - 3 majority on the supreme court? Do you want to tell me how what I said was not the reason for that balance on the SC? Do you not think the overturning of Roe vs Wade was the erosion of women's rights?

Why are you so fixated on a candidate from the past that was just no good?

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago

Misogyny happens everywhere, but it doesn't help fight it when calling the public misogynists because they didn't support a dreadful candidate. A man can be a dreadful candidate, and so can a woman.

The degradation of women's rights is down to failure of the Democrats to maintain balance in the supreme court. It also represents RBGs inability to step aside when Democrats were in power. Supreme Court justices should have some decency, retire at say 67, and allow a new generation to come along. Clinging on until 87 was insanely risky as you certainly need 5 to 10 years leeway to navigate out on your terms. RBG was eulogised, but her clinging to her seat undermined a careers work and any progress on women's rights amongst other core rights.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 74 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

UK citizen here. Already had 3 women prime ministers.

It wasn't that Hilary was a woman, simply she was more dislikable than Liz Truss and seemed to put nothing out to convince people to vote for her. It wasn't clear at all what she stood for or what her platform was.

It came across as entitled and like she took the electorate for granted. No matter how great or good you think you are, or how bad your rival is, you still have to ask the electorate to lend you their vote.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 17 points 1 week ago

Ultimately, relationships often depend on it. Many men in my life are fine and comfortable when I express vulnerability or weakness. Though when I do in relationships, it often goes sideways. Decision making, certainty and very positively received. Alongside that, recent relationships respond positively as they prefer a submissive role.

The woman in my life have generally maintained this type of role.

For further clarification, physical violence hasn't been required or welcome in adult life. Barely seen a usage since school.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 5 points 1 week ago

Or finding much of it poor quality.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Hey, don't attack what people want. This is a biological urge and hard to decide against. If you don't want children, that is cool for you. If others do, that is also fine for them.

The world is messed up and getting worse, obviously, but may won't share our cynicism and I probably don't want to drag people down with me. It's hard to build enthusiasm after.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I had a no scalpel vasectomy. My wound took about 3 weeks for me to feel comfortable. I had doubts after 2 weeks, but it eventually got there. They don't unnecessarily give out antibiotics here. It was a case of water to clean and keep it dry. I ended up using antiseptic cleaning fluid for the last week or so.

Here in the UK, they say 12 weeks minimum, and the test for all clear is after 16 weeks, but that's probably a little safer and in these situations, I ain't taking any gambles. Imagine knocking someone up 9 weeks after a vasectomy. Could be soul destroying.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 14 points 10 months ago

As someone who was in an emotionally abusive relationship, I don't think I can read this without getting triggered.

I think it's important to remember that all women are capable of being victims and perpetrators, and all men are also capable. Abusers have no genders and can occur in non-cis relationships.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 5 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I would contest that only men are the issue. I have found in my personal life, when I have been vulnerable, or emotional, or distressed, the cost is quite severe socially. Men don't open up, because often society doesn't want them to open up. Weirdly enough, it's the women in my life that have most frequently had a negative reaction to my humanity/distress/vulnerability, guys often have been there and they understand to some extent. They may not always know what to say or how to respond, but you often feel the empathy.

I don't believe you have to assume men are the cause of all problem to believe in positive tenets of feminism such as that women should be free to be who they are, and achieve what they want and society and governments should accommodate that right and eradicate those things that hold them back.

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 14 points 10 months ago

So, in other words, because it's risky, companies don't want to do it.

It sucks that capitalism doesn't allow men to have full control to their reproduction (condoms suck, fail often, and many women are also not happy using them).

[-] IcyToes@sh.itjust.works 19 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

I think you're understating it. While the op was pretty painless. The wound care can be a little stressful.

It is a permanent procedure and one really needs to consider if they are happy to go that route. Reversals have a high reversal failure rate that get worse over time. Can not be counted upon. Even if you freeze sperm, IVF is never a guarantee, and not all women are comfortable with it.

Of course, I did this, and absolutely have no regrets. Probably one of the better decisions I have made. Anxiety has gone, and I feel somewhat safe.

I didn't really want to take the permanent route, but had no other choice the was safe. Condom failure rate is high, and trust in regards to other methods is just too much. You want to have full control over your reproduction.

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