eh, i think the trans rights has been hurting the general left's aims. we're on the verge of an eco-collapse, rise of fascism, and the birth of a dystopian neo-fuedal society. fixing those things takes precedent over some goth kid that insists everyone be nice to them.
just leave. they're never going to accept you in the bible belt south. the sooner you walk away, the sooner their tax base goes down. and for all those "waah, it's too hard to leave!" people: if you stay in a place where you know they want to lynch you, that's on you.
i grew up in the south and i was ostracized too (and i'm a cis white male!). i know exactly how it is down there. there is no compromise. either the fed takes complete control of those states, somebody genocides the lot of them, or it will always be that way.