[-] aiken@slrpnk.net 4 points 1 month ago

I am socially awkward, have been around socially awkward people my whole life. It's not about being socially competent or not but daring to blame his daughter in an ableist way and not acknowledging she had too much pressure at home.

[-] aiken@slrpnk.net 7 points 1 month ago

Is it me or he uses very weird words to talk about her deceased daughter? It feels very off. And zero sense of his own responsibility.

Does he really think that she did it cause she "hyper-fixated"? Why the drama, Caitlyn, it should be an honour to sit for two hours in a room. 🙄

[-] aiken@slrpnk.net 3 points 2 months ago

There are houseplants that are taken from nature endangering the species or grown in tropical countries and imported. But this isn't that common, especially for plants that are meant for beginners. Most countries will also have very strict laws and policies that prevent importing invasive, endangered species, or any plant that may become a threat.

Most houseplants are grown much closer to the place they will be sold (if you live in Europe, the ones you find in stores probably come from the Netherlands. Many will have their Plant Passport that can tell you where they exactly come from!), which not only reduces the impact but it also helps the plants to be better acclimated to those places.

I am not really sure if you can grow native plants indoors unless you live in a tropical country. Plants in colder climates usually need to experience the cold of the winter! Which is hard to provide in a home. Also, some plants are protected and can't be taken from nature.

My favorite houseplants are pothos, philodendrons and other aroids.

But I would suggest you look into Tradescantias instead. They are very hardy and easy to grow. And they come in many different colors!

You just must be aware that they are considered an invasive species in some places. However, as long as they are kept in pots inside the house (or a balcony, for example), there shouldn't be any problem.

Since they are so easy to grow, many people sell or give away cuttings (check for example this thread on Mastodon). You wouldn't need to attend a commercial store if you don't want to support the environmental impact all the greenhouses and nurseries have.

I don't think cuttings are usually a good idea for beginners cause they grow so slow!! But you don't have that problem with Tradescantias.

[-] aiken@slrpnk.net 1 points 3 months ago

Sometimes just existing is enough.

I have been stressed for so many years because I wasn't enough (not productive, not rich, not blahblahblah). Now I am training myself to go outside, sit on a bench for 30-60 mins and doing absolutely nothing besides listening to the birds.

It still feels wrong sometimes, but it gets easier every day.

You should give it a try! Then maybe you will unlearn the lie you have been told: that you need to be producing 24/7 to deserve feeling good with yourself.

aiken

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