Mostly ok! I'm just officially grads, so trying to get used to new routine and stuff. Fighting with myself during both my high and low but I think I'm doing alright and it should improve soon.
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I'm so busy with my work that I tend to forget to talk more on here ๐ but other than that I have hope that thing will get better for me. Mentally and financially!
Hope you all are doing ok or better soon.
Honestly, I'm happy to join if beehaw move on to something like a forum and not-federated. IMO (which may sound selfish to some but) I join beehaw because of the vibe and the rules that I'm happy to follow. I'm not really joining beehaw because I want to use it as a Reddit replacement, but I want to interact with the community. I feel like Beehaw identity doesn't really tie to lemmy or on specific software.
So whatever if it federates or not will not really affect me much. I only speak for myself, of course. For others, it might not be the same case. I feel safe commenting and talking in beehaw own community, so... whatever the decision, maybe I'm happy to stay/follow with beehaw. Thank you for the transparency and hard work you all put into beehaw :)
Oh yeah that totally fine! I'm from Thailand so my native language is Thai.
IMO, there's a lot of factor playing part in this. (Copying from my fedi personal fedi acc!)
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A lot of people lack control of the real world situation that happen to them and some are desperate for the feel of being in control enough to harm other people just to feel like 'I'm in control'
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A lot of people do not have a way to properly deal with their anger and frustration. They only teach to 'hold or suppress it' and there's such also consequence in showing negative emotion IRL, so online is almost having no consequence for it.
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Online people are separate by screen. People know that there's people behind it, but they don't feel it. In online, we don't get in your face 'feedback' from body language or facial expression from other people. IRL, you mess around and pretty much find out instantly.
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Social media reward people with engagement and fav/like, which is easy dopamine for people like it's just a tip away from their body. And SOMEHOW I feel like social media normalized people being mean to each other as 'Playful witty funny hahaha' so they get rewarded by that. And yeah these things are addictive, so you can crave more, making you do more 'extreme' thing to get them. And yes you can get addicted to being angry too.
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And then there is also peer pressure and 'us vs them' mentality that is so strong in social media. I mean yeah, if we look at it, being 'mean' together with your group it's sort of activity that you can bound together and also reward you as well. It just not a good one and come at a cost of another people.
Now add all of them together, you get the platform that reward toxic interaction and also extremely addictive. You get reward from like/fav. You get reward by 'Peer approval' (because today we forbid other people having neutral opinion on a thing, but it could be just my experience.), You get reward by your own brain. Not counting other thing like politic, moral compass, religion because it adds entirely another layer on this.
Oh yeah! Not going to lie, but I completely forget about this entire last week. What time do you like to go for a walk, if you don't mind me asking? In the morning or before sunset :o ?
Last week is hellish for my mental health (depressed for entire week for no reason it seems.) but this week is pretty good! I get thing done, I feel better and enjoying my day so far! I hope you all have a good week or at least thing will get better soon!
I have the similar problem like you, So I keep my journal/note/diary on digitally. I'm faster with typing stuff and I have problem with organizing my items, so digital make thing a lot easier to find and organize (or do it later)
I don't find any different in my own feeling when typing diary or writing them. They're equally effective IMO.
A bit stressful, but I can manage it. I manage to get work done and slowly gain my ability to enjoy my hobby and making thing for myself again, which is nice!(For context, I have dysthymia, so I kinda lose my enjoyment in my hobby for a long while now) I'm new at beehaw as well, so hi everyone! I hope thing will get better for everyone here and have a good day. ๐
Looking good so far, Better than last week when I have a breakdown and can't function at all. So I'm looking forward to the rest of the week and more! I'm hanging on, but also getting better ๐