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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/BillDillen on 2023-07-17 22:39:43.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/SallyOnTheLand on 2023-08-31 17:12:08.

How do we do it? How are people with the grit and stubbornness doing in mainstream (social gender identity) groups? I want to engage with these groups. But the pablum of fuzzy feels and X-ray/fae/bunkin is simply awful, especially when they become zealous about it and bash “bioessentialist” people. (Hello, we are all bioessentialist in some way because we are biotic composed beings.) Most of the forum facilitators are social constructionist ideological zealots. I wonder where transsexed people are supposed to even go besides here, really. But I’m not yet giving up in trying to engage these groups. If it weren’t for the sociopolitical dangers we all share, I would wish for a final split between TG and TS. But we do, so… How are people threading the needle between total reticence in groups and intellectual or personal honesty?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/unmakethewildlyra on 2023-08-19 23:21:22.

while I personally think stuff like the blanchard typology is, to put it politely, not based in any sort of fact, one interesting element discussed by it and a lot of similar “theories” is that straight trans women often grow up dressing as girls and express their desire to be a girl before puberty, whereas lesbian trans women often only develop gender dysphoria later. I personally fit this (lesbian, and developing dysphoria only when I started puberty) and it also seems to fit most of the trans people I know personally.

of course this completely ignores trans men and bisexuals, and I realise the whole idea is reductive in nature. it has lingered in the back of my mind though as one of many “why am I this way” questions. I’m wondering if there is a pattern to be seen here or I just coincidentally have a lot of friends fitting the stereotype?

(and fyi: I don’t think this would make anyone less or more of a trans person or whatever—the mechanics of being trans just interest me)

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/TRGlider on 2023-08-05 18:41:47.

Hi All. Anyone heard of or read any of the writings of Susan Stryker? (MtF). One of her early works here: https://www.sas.upenn.edu/~cavitch/pdf-library/Stryker_My_Words.pdf Worth checking out her work. I hope that some of what she has written helps to bring comfort and perspective to those here that could use some in some way shape or form. Hugs, xxxx

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Auroramarianna on 2023-07-09 11:49:49+00:00.

Hi :)

I wanted to ask, I really would like to have bangs as I have heard they're so good to hide brow bossing and I really have it. However, I also have a very strong nose, so I'm afraid it would highlight it even more. I would prefer to accentuate my eyes, rather than the hard shapes and angles of my face. I really wanted to ask. Have you guys tried bangs to hide brow bossing? Do you think it's flattering to your face shape?

Despite having brow bossing, my forehead is very short but wide which makes it a challenge for bangs/fringe

thanks so much for reading and sorry if this is not the right sub lol

https://imgur.com/a/4DYx5Ck

oh this one too --> https://imgur.com/a/F1TEgIG

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/BillDillen on 2023-07-04 18:38:27+00:00.

Hey. I started HRT about a year ago. I have changed drastically due to HRT. And I have not seen my extended family since. They also have no idea about my transsexuality. And, I know for a fact, that they are homophobic (they once complained about homosexual people being allowed in the goverment). So I assume that they are probably also transphobic. But I want to see them again, and they invited me for this month. How should I deal with that?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/BillDillen on 2023-07-03 20:43:34+00:00.

Hey. I am a transsexual man and Idk. I am on testosterone for....idk. A year? And I am insecure about my voice. You ever heard of the typical "Homosexual voice"? Before getting HRT I was really scared of getting this. And now I am insecure, cause now I can't tell whether or not I have it. I want like the typical, low manly voice. You know? I never asked anyone whether or not my voice sounds like a typical Homosexual voice, cause, I don't wanna seem homophobic. Any advice? How can I find out if I have this voice? Is there an app to find that out? And how can I get the most manly voice possible? How can I train my voice. Anyone with the same struggle?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/funnydontneedthat on 2023-07-03 16:46:52+00:00.

A bit of a vent because there's nowhere to talk about these things. I don't like it. It's not something I want to be, I just am. I accept that I am, I just don't like it. Maybe it's some sort of "internalized transphobia" like some of these "trans" kids have said. I've definitely tried to convert myself out of my need to transition, it doesn't work btw. I don't understand why people would want to be trans? It makes me want to scream and shake people!

Has anyone else been this way? I feel so alone in this all.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/BillDillen on 2023-07-02 08:49:36+00:00.

This flag 🏳️‍⚧️ gets more associated with transgenders than transsexuality. So a new flag might be helpful to separate the 2 terms further.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-30 16:48:58+00:00.

I don't give a shit about flags really, this is more for cheek, but seriously the flag is gross girly Easter pastel gobbly gook.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Falgun1996 on 2023-06-30 09:20:13+00:00.

Hello, I am trans (ftm), Pretransition. I am attracted to men. Had my first experience of gender dysphoria at 5 years old. I am 26 now. I was hypersexual since 4 years old, had twisted fantasies, used to get engaged in hyperfeminine dress up in secret, used to gratify myself doing masterbation type of things (i had no idea about genitals at that time). Today I was talking to my sister. She said my dysphoria could possibly have stemmed from my shame and guilt regarding the childhood hypersexuality.

I am very dysphoric about my body, about my breasts, my lack of body hair, periods, lack of male genitals, going into the womens loo etc. I have an intense aversion towards my genitals. What my sister said, may very well be a fact. But I am not sure if this is the only thing.

Can anyone help?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-28 21:47:37+00:00.

I was banned for this comment...

I do worry about the atmosphere we've created as trans people. There's always silencing no matter how innocuous.

"Trans people call everything internalized transphobia. Sounds like you have your own taste. Just enjoy it." - comment in question

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-27 05:17:09+00:00.

That is all. I just don't have another space to say that. Phew....

Don't ban me.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/devequt on 2023-06-25 01:00:05+00:00.

A few years ago I[34F] have become a mainstay voter for the Conservative Party of Canada. I have been very disappointed with the way NDP has run our province (although the current Premier David Eby is pretty good), and the way Liberals are with Canada. But just recently this news came out from the provincial CPC: https://tnc.news/2023/06/23/bc-conservatives-womens-spaces/

Sometimes I feel disappointed and a bit upset. I feel like as a transsexual woman who is post-op, and have been living mostly stealth for years, women's spaces are safe for me. I don't know how many times I have been harassed by men in my 20s, and even had to call the police a couple times.

I feel more and more alienated by the modern transgender movement, whereas I just want to continue living my life. My history does not make my personality. I was happy to know that Hannah Hodson (trans) is a Conservative MP, as well as Melissa Lantsman (cis lesbian). But I wish there was just as much vocal support for people like me in Conservative communities. I guess I won't be voting in the next election until the Conservative Party stops making "trans" a star issue.

All because of drag queen story time, trans issues have been dragged into this. I can't imagine what it is like in the USA.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Less-Floor-1290 on 2023-06-16 12:33:25+00:00.

I'm nearing the end of my transition after I was diagnosed in 2015, when I just turned 12. I've been knowingly a transsexual for 8 years but have never had an actual community to go to when my transition was stressing me out.

No one wanted SRS, I was the always weird one for wanting it. Even more gatekeepy communities would bash SRS and talk about how you didn't need it to be "valid." Why can't people who absolutely need to have SRS ever have a place for themselves? Why does everyone want to be a transsexual without actually being one? Even if you claim to have bottom dysphoria, you will never go through what I'm about to go through and that makes us different. I should be able to separate myself from people who don't want SRS, regardless of the reason, without being some kind of bigot or gatekeeper.

It seems like every year the definition of both transgender and transsexual get even more watered down. Crossdressers are now transgender, transgenders are now transsexuals, and true transsexuals may as well not even exist.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Knownepic on 2023-06-15 00:20:35+00:00.

I think I'm justified bringing her up. She is a complete disgrace in my opinion.

For those who don't know, Rose Montoya is a trans MtF influencer, who was invited to a FAMILY FRIENDLY Pride event at the White House in Washington DC, and met the President of the United States, Joe Biden.

Before I go on, I just want to emphasise that this was a family friendly event, and was marketed as child friendly.

Whilst Rose Montoya was there, she decided (in her infinite wisdom) to remove her shirt, and jiggle her breasts with her fingers over nippes. As she did this, 2 trans men did the same, showing their surgery scars.

The backlash fell mostly on Rose, but all 3 are in the wrong. They are at the White House. The symbol of the Western World. The place where the President leads the free democracies against dictators and tyranny. This behaviour is inappropriate beyond measure, and makes the West look bad. This is nit an opportunity to take your top off, but to present yourself with dignity and respect.

Forget about the President for a second, and remember that there were children at this event. This should go without saying, but undressing in the vicinity of children is massively inappropriate! Right wing influencer already play the groomer card on us. How on earth did you think this would help the transgender communities case?

As expected, the right wing twitter users have taken, and ran with this. It is going to set us back, and spark further hate for this community.

IM SO SICK OF PEOPLE.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Rainfall_Sunrise on 2023-06-11 13:51:07+00:00.

What is the difference between transgender and transsexual? /Genq

Genuinely wanna know, cuz i , a transmasc person, use both

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/livinginhell95 on 2023-06-10 17:19:09+00:00.

i know this was mentioned in another post too, but i wanted to mention it as well. i remember when i was younger before all of this, i felt so connected to that trans community, it was just one, clear definition, not an umbrella term, and everyone agreed you needed dysphoria to trans, we had all these laws in place for therapy to make sure that's what we wanted, everyone believed in just two sexes. the transgender community i do not and cannot relate to at all. i remember seeing it first happen back in 2015, i was on tumblr, and that's the first time i heard someone tell me that you don't need dysphoria to be trans, and that literally blew my mind because of how absurd it sounded, so i spoke out against it saying you DO need dysphoria to be trans, not realizing there was a whole crowd of people against that belief, and at that time i had like 400 followers. i got constant anon hate telling me to kill myself and i was even stalked on my online game just for a whole group of people to tell me to kill myself through the game as well when i was just minding my own business playing it. i became severely depressed and i started questioning everything about what i believed, i felt so alone during that time period because i felt like i was the only one to believe that suddenly, questioning everything i knew about being a transsexual, from how i feel, to all the research i have done over the years. it is SO nice to see others have similar views now and that we seem to be building a proper transsexual community again that i can actually connect with. i'm hoping they start seeing how we're calling ourselves differently from what they are

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/sertanejogostosinho on 2023-06-07 18:54:35+00:00.

Hello, I'm doing research on transphobia, and I would like to know some stories of people who have suffered from it, could you help me? And I'm sorry if this is a sensitive subject for you, but it's not my intention for it to be. So, have you ever suffered from transphobia?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-03 17:00:37+00:00.

That's all.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/frootloop2000 on 2023-06-03 08:15:48+00:00.

Hey, guys! I just posted a video on YouTube where I talk about the differences between these two things. I've been thinking about this for a long time, and I've noticed that people seem to be finally noticing that they are actually different!

I think that a lot of the people who attack us only do so because they misunderstand what we are, and because people these days make no distinction between transgenderism and transsexualism.

https://youtu.be/7ity2C6cbKE

The video is only 12 mins long! Could you please watch it until the end and share your thoughts with me? I would really love to get feedback on the content! :D

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/GinoMidnight on 2023-05-23 23:31:15+00:00.

One of my best friends that is trans (her name is Brooke btw) is going to be turning 21 in a week. She also recently got a bartending license and is working on getting into barbacking. She wanted a good drink to celebrate her 21st bday and so I asked Chat GPT to make a drink. I like the direction this went and she loved what it came up with so I thought I'd share it with you guys.

So since Brooke likes vodka and wanted a cocktail, I asked Chat GPT to make a trans themed cocktail, and here is what it said:

"While there isn't a widely recognized vodka-based cocktail specifically associated with the trans community, it is possible to create a cocktail that celebrates inclusivity and diversity. The concept of creating a cocktail to represent or associate with a particular community can be a way to promote awareness and show support.

One option could be to create a custom cocktail that incorporates colors commonly associated with the transgender flag. The transgender flag features light blue, pink, and white stripes. You could experiment with ingredients that represent these colors, such as blue curaçao for the blue stripe, grenadine or strawberry syrup for the pink stripe, and coconut milk or cream for the white stripe.

Here's a suggested recipe for a vodka-based cocktail representing the transgender flag:

Ingredients:

1 1/2 ounces (45 ml) vodka

1/2 ounce (15 ml) blue curaçao

1/2 ounce (15 ml) grenadine or strawberry syrup

1/2 ounce (15 ml) coconut milk or cream Ice

Optional garnish: Fresh strawberry or blueberry

Instructions:

Fill a shaker with ice.

Add vodka and blue curaçao to the shaker and shake until well chilled.

Strain the mixture into a glass.

Slowly pour the grenadine or strawberry syrup down the side of the glass, allowing it to sink to the bottom, creating a layered effect.

In a separate glass, mix the coconut milk or cream with a small amount of blue curaçao to create a slightly lighter shade of blue.

Gently pour the coconut milk or cream mixture over the back of a spoon onto the layered drink to create another layer.

Garnish with a fresh strawberry or blueberry, if desired.

Serve and enjoy!

Remember, this is a custom cocktail created to symbolize inclusivity and representation. Feel free to adjust the ingredients and proportions to suit your taste and preferences."

As someone who doesn't drink very often, this drink honestly sounds fantastic and Brooke really liked it too. Because of this, I thought it was worth sharing with you guys in case there's any alcohol/cocktail lovers out there. Hope you guys enjoy! <3

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Initial-Cap-1404 on 2023-05-13 20:40:23+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Unknownguwrl on 2023-05-03 13:03:48+00:00.

Original Title: Question: when you have an orgasm (post op ) are you basically throwing ur estrogen shot away? I just did my shot yesterday but I did the did today so I’m like did I just waste that estrogen shot ? PLS HELP ITS A SERIOUS CONCERN

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/gagap98 on 2023-04-19 14:22:08+00:00.

I am a transsexual woman who transitioned while I was still living in a muslim country before moving to Canada. I came to the West under the illusion that my life would be easier than it was in a country where my very existence is illegal, but I was wrong. The law meant I could be put in jail for years on end or lynched in public if people found out I was trans, but people around me were pretty accepting of me and I didn't have that many issues socially, things like using the bathroom or being seen as "one of the girls".

The reason why being a part of the LGBT was starting to get accepted there was that we were telling people that we are born this way and can't change it even if we wanted to or if we were forced to. I'm sure it's the same reasoning that allowed for same-sex marriage in the West as you wouldn't want to deprive someone from their basic rights. Trans acceptance was on the rise after that, but the pivotal moment that opened the door to all this tucute bullshit and division which ended up pushing conservatives to try and outlaw our existence as transsexuals was when we allowed self-ID and accepted that anyone who says they're trans should be seen as such.

When the medical world stopped seeing transsexualism as a medical condition to which gender dysphoria is an essential symptom, being trans went from something we can't help and should be getting medication and surgeries for to something anyone and everyone can opt into whether it's to feel special and quirky, to be part of a community, or to be able to have a victim card to whip out in the case of people who are otherwise being told that they are privileged. Now, they're saying you don't need gender dysphoria to be trans and anyone who says they're trans is. This implies that HRT and surgeries are something that trans people can do without and that, since anyone can opt into being trans, we can opt out of it too, which means people who would've otherwise accepted and empathized with us are now seeing how insane the discourse has gotten and dismissing every single person who's trans, even actual transsexuals.

The next step after this invasion of our label and our medical condition was the erasure of our identities and everything we fought so hard for. No one cared about trans women using the women's bathroom until we allowed men in dresses with full beards to self-ID and call themselves trans and use the women's bathroom. No one cared about trans people getting our HRT and surgeries paid for by the government until trans rights terrorists started saying gender dysphoria is not a thing, let alone something that's debilitating, which ironically is the real transphobia. No one cared about trans people being represented in the media until all the companies started jumping onto the woke bandwagon and forcing imposters like Dylan Mulvaney onto people's screens in the name of inclusivity when in reality they're only doing it for social points and to make a quick buck off of the LGBT. No one cared about gender non conforming men and women until some of them decided they were "non binary" so they're also trans now. I don't understand how people don't realize this and why the lack of self-awareness is this severe.

Self-ID was the biggest mistake of the trans acceptance movement, and the progression of events from allowing people to "identify" as part of our community to them actively destroying it from the inside out is not lost on me. I never chose to have this medical condition, and for these gender nazis (tucutes) to erase our identity and struggles, speak over people like us who are actually trans, label us as transphobic or truscum for not wanting to be associated with xe/xum fascists, campaign against our access to life-saving surgeries and hormones, brainwash children going through puberty, make everyone around them bend over backwards to accommodate their delusions, and make us feel ashamed to say we're trans is something I will never forgive them for. I would rather be beaten up again while being called a tranny than have to endure having one more second with these disgusting beasts in the public eye and speaking in our name. We need to speak up and we need to act now. Thank you for coming to my TED talk.