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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Kuutamokissa on 2023-04-05 07:24:10+00:00.

I’ve often been told off by trans forever activists and apologists for saying I’ve changed sex. And met with hostility for saying I’ve never been transgender. However, to me “transgender” has never been more than an opt-in identity that did not at all interest me—and given proper treatment my congenital disorder… transsexualism… can be transient.

No—I may not be a perfect beauty… but I know others with a less ideal starting point who also have successfully crossed the sex divide. Even some who used to be male athletes in school when growing up …who have married, built careers and lived normal lives after undergoing just SRS. Some never even told their husbands.

So… what makes the difference?

I felt startled when I read the following passage from The Bear and the Nightingale by Katherine Arden… because it very closely described how the final step felt to me...

“Can you tell me how you do it?” She came up beside him and peered eagerly at the brush in his hand.

“You are too attached to things as they are,” said Morozko , combing the mare’s withers. He glanced down idly. “You must allow things to be what best suits your purpose. And then they will.”

Vasya, puzzled, made no reply. Solovey snorted, not about to be left out. Vasya picked up her own straw and started on the horse’s neck. No matter how hard she stared at it, though, it remained straw.

“You can’t change it to a brush,” said Morozko, seeing her. “Because that would be to believe it is now straw. Just allow it, now, to be a brush.”

Disgruntled, Vasya glowered into Solovey’s flank. “I don’t understand.”

“Nothing changes, Vasya. Things are, or they are not. Magic is forgetting that something ever was other than as you willed it.”

“I still do not understand.”

“That does not mean you cannot learn.”

“I think you are making a game of me.”

“As you like,” said Morozko. But he smiled when he said it.

People tend to ultimately perceive and categorize us based on our internal qualities.

It’s being not trans but normal that releases us from the twilight zone of in-between.

♪(๑ᴖ◡ᴖ๑)♪

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/TRGlider on 2023-04-02 17:01:40+00:00.

Cross posting here as a Transsexual.

Love the word Transsexual (noun)! Should be used more! By its' definition it is accurate and speaks the truth to those that are Transsexuals!! Check out the DSM5 to learn the current context of this word. It's not outdated except by those drink the current 'narrative cool aid'. The current SOC8 does not properly pay respect to those that are Transsexual! Why they do not, I can only speculate. Respect transsexuals by using the term correctly when referring to transsexuals! Having gender dysphoria is no joke and can be deadly! To some the term 'transsexual' has some weird 'social' and or 'pornographic' connotation. To label a transsexual individual incorrectly I find insulting.

Transsexual:  An individual who seeks or has undergone, a social transition from male to female or female to male, which in many, but not all cases may also involve a somatic transition by cross-sex hormone treatment and genital surgery (‘sex reassignment surgery’).

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/TsChristynSlays on 2023-03-07 22:06:31+00:00.

hey gang! any girls (18+ only) play MWII? specifically search and destroy? im tryin to put together an all TS squad to go around shitting on👉👌boys. a good workin mic and a sharp tongue is mandatory. sweaty types preferred but not necessary.

xbx gt; Ts Christyn

my activ. id; TsChristynSlays

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by [deleted] on 2023-01-21 17:24:37+00:00.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/BillDillen on 2023-07-04 18:38:27+00:00.

Hey. I started HRT about a year ago. I have changed drastically due to HRT. And I have not seen my extended family since. They also have no idea about my transsexuality. And, I know for a fact, that they are homophobic (they once complained about homosexual people being allowed in the goverment). So I assume that they are probably also transphobic. But I want to see them again, and they invited me for this month. How should I deal with that?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/BillDillen on 2023-07-03 20:43:34+00:00.

Hey. I am a transsexual man and Idk. I am on testosterone for....idk. A year? And I am insecure about my voice. You ever heard of the typical "Homosexual voice"? Before getting HRT I was really scared of getting this. And now I am insecure, cause now I can't tell whether or not I have it. I want like the typical, low manly voice. You know? I never asked anyone whether or not my voice sounds like a typical Homosexual voice, cause, I don't wanna seem homophobic. Any advice? How can I find out if I have this voice? Is there an app to find that out? And how can I get the most manly voice possible? How can I train my voice. Anyone with the same struggle?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/funnydontneedthat on 2023-07-03 16:46:52+00:00.

A bit of a vent because there's nowhere to talk about these things. I don't like it. It's not something I want to be, I just am. I accept that I am, I just don't like it. Maybe it's some sort of "internalized transphobia" like some of these "trans" kids have said. I've definitely tried to convert myself out of my need to transition, it doesn't work btw. I don't understand why people would want to be trans? It makes me want to scream and shake people!

Has anyone else been this way? I feel so alone in this all.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/BillDillen on 2023-07-02 08:49:36+00:00.

This flag 🏳️‍⚧️ gets more associated with transgenders than transsexuality. So a new flag might be helpful to separate the 2 terms further.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-30 16:48:58+00:00.

I don't give a shit about flags really, this is more for cheek, but seriously the flag is gross girly Easter pastel gobbly gook.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Falgun1996 on 2023-06-30 09:20:13+00:00.

Hello, I am trans (ftm), Pretransition. I am attracted to men. Had my first experience of gender dysphoria at 5 years old. I am 26 now. I was hypersexual since 4 years old, had twisted fantasies, used to get engaged in hyperfeminine dress up in secret, used to gratify myself doing masterbation type of things (i had no idea about genitals at that time). Today I was talking to my sister. She said my dysphoria could possibly have stemmed from my shame and guilt regarding the childhood hypersexuality.

I am very dysphoric about my body, about my breasts, my lack of body hair, periods, lack of male genitals, going into the womens loo etc. I have an intense aversion towards my genitals. What my sister said, may very well be a fact. But I am not sure if this is the only thing.

Can anyone help?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-28 21:47:37+00:00.

I was banned for this comment...

I do worry about the atmosphere we've created as trans people. There's always silencing no matter how innocuous.

"Trans people call everything internalized transphobia. Sounds like you have your own taste. Just enjoy it." - comment in question

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-27 05:17:09+00:00.

That is all. I just don't have another space to say that. Phew....

Don't ban me.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-26 22:28:50+00:00.

I know some lesbians lement the disappearance of "butches" but seriously if you've met some of these fembous, you'd realize they ain't got shit of butches.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/devequt on 2023-06-25 01:00:05+00:00.

A few years ago I[34F] have become a mainstay voter for the Conservative Party of Canada. I have been very disappointed with the way NDP has run our province (although the current Premier David Eby is pretty good), and the way Liberals are with Canada. But just recently this news came out from the provincial CPC: https://tnc.news/2023/06/23/bc-conservatives-womens-spaces/

Sometimes I feel disappointed and a bit upset. I feel like as a transsexual woman who is post-op, and have been living mostly stealth for years, women's spaces are safe for me. I don't know how many times I have been harassed by men in my 20s, and even had to call the police a couple times.

I feel more and more alienated by the modern transgender movement, whereas I just want to continue living my life. My history does not make my personality. I was happy to know that Hannah Hodson (trans) is a Conservative MP, as well as Melissa Lantsman (cis lesbian). But I wish there was just as much vocal support for people like me in Conservative communities. I guess I won't be voting in the next election until the Conservative Party stops making "trans" a star issue.

All because of drag queen story time, trans issues have been dragged into this. I can't imagine what it is like in the USA.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/HellaVolsung on 2023-06-16 16:27:06+00:00.

This sub seems flooded with bitter devisiveness. Can we say something nice? I'll start. I think becoming an old lady is an extremely comforting idea, as I find older gals have the most fun! Yes, youthful femeninity has it's absolutely wonderful moments, but graceful cronehood appears twice the prize💚

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Less-Floor-1290 on 2023-06-16 12:33:25+00:00.

I'm nearing the end of my transition after I was diagnosed in 2015, when I just turned 12. I've been knowingly a transsexual for 8 years but have never had an actual community to go to when my transition was stressing me out.

No one wanted SRS, I was the always weird one for wanting it. Even more gatekeepy communities would bash SRS and talk about how you didn't need it to be "valid." Why can't people who absolutely need to have SRS ever have a place for themselves? Why does everyone want to be a transsexual without actually being one? Even if you claim to have bottom dysphoria, you will never go through what I'm about to go through and that makes us different. I should be able to separate myself from people who don't want SRS, regardless of the reason, without being some kind of bigot or gatekeeper.

It seems like every year the definition of both transgender and transsexual get even more watered down. Crossdressers are now transgender, transgenders are now transsexuals, and true transsexuals may as well not even exist.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/livinginhell95 on 2023-06-16 10:13:52+00:00.

not meaning this message in a rude way, but if nonbinary people want to exist, then we should also treat them like it in terms of dating

for example, i'm only attracted to women, not men, and now including nonbinary people

i know it may sound silly, but i've caught myself seeing someone who says they're nonbinary, i just immediately find no attraction to them (this goes for men, transwomen, and possibly transmen as well (currently questioning on that one))... the reasons for me not finding a nonbinary person attractive is entirely different though and i know where it's coming from

and this is a little off topic, but i don't agree that it's transphobic to not want to date a transsexual person (or transgender to them i guess). everyone has what they're personally attracted to and we can't help that (literally what the previous LGBT community was preaching previously)

i dunno, just a random thought i had (not imposing)

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Knownepic on 2023-06-15 00:20:35+00:00.

I think I'm justified bringing her up. She is a complete disgrace in my opinion.

For those who don't know, Rose Montoya is a trans MtF influencer, who was invited to a FAMILY FRIENDLY Pride event at the White House in Washington DC, and met the President of the United States, Joe Biden.

Before I go on, I just want to emphasise that this was a family friendly event, and was marketed as child friendly.

Whilst Rose Montoya was there, she decided (in her infinite wisdom) to remove her shirt, and jiggle her breasts with her fingers over nippes. As she did this, 2 trans men did the same, showing their surgery scars.

The backlash fell mostly on Rose, but all 3 are in the wrong. They are at the White House. The symbol of the Western World. The place where the President leads the free democracies against dictators and tyranny. This behaviour is inappropriate beyond measure, and makes the West look bad. This is nit an opportunity to take your top off, but to present yourself with dignity and respect.

Forget about the President for a second, and remember that there were children at this event. This should go without saying, but undressing in the vicinity of children is massively inappropriate! Right wing influencer already play the groomer card on us. How on earth did you think this would help the transgender communities case?

As expected, the right wing twitter users have taken, and ran with this. It is going to set us back, and spark further hate for this community.

IM SO SICK OF PEOPLE.

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Rainfall_Sunrise on 2023-06-11 13:51:07+00:00.

What is the difference between transgender and transsexual? /Genq

Genuinely wanna know, cuz i , a transmasc person, use both

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Rainfall_Sunrise on 2023-06-11 13:42:21+00:00.

Hello, I am a Nonbinary person who mostly expresses masculine. (They, He)

I truly need help with choosing a name, because i need a name that sounds GERMAN, so that it doesn't stick out like a Needle in a blanket.

Ths would mean i have to leave behind the name i feel most comfortable with, Jay, and go by something more german. But my parents pronounce english stuff shittily and I wouldn't want them to struggle.

So anyone have some more german-sound names similar to jay? I'd have Jay as middle name

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/livinginhell95 on 2023-06-10 17:19:09+00:00.

i know this was mentioned in another post too, but i wanted to mention it as well. i remember when i was younger before all of this, i felt so connected to that trans community, it was just one, clear definition, not an umbrella term, and everyone agreed you needed dysphoria to trans, we had all these laws in place for therapy to make sure that's what we wanted, everyone believed in just two sexes. the transgender community i do not and cannot relate to at all. i remember seeing it first happen back in 2015, i was on tumblr, and that's the first time i heard someone tell me that you don't need dysphoria to be trans, and that literally blew my mind because of how absurd it sounded, so i spoke out against it saying you DO need dysphoria to be trans, not realizing there was a whole crowd of people against that belief, and at that time i had like 400 followers. i got constant anon hate telling me to kill myself and i was even stalked on my online game just for a whole group of people to tell me to kill myself through the game as well when i was just minding my own business playing it. i became severely depressed and i started questioning everything about what i believed, i felt so alone during that time period because i felt like i was the only one to believe that suddenly, questioning everything i knew about being a transsexual, from how i feel, to all the research i have done over the years. it is SO nice to see others have similar views now and that we seem to be building a proper transsexual community again that i can actually connect with. i'm hoping they start seeing how we're calling ourselves differently from what they are

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/livinginhell95 on 2023-06-10 16:37:16+00:00.

i was able to move out my parents house recently, but i still live close by. can't hide forever due to transitioning, but i'm pretty sure my dad is gonna disown me whenever he finds out

i don't want to hate on him or do anything to him, i just want to know how to deal or cope with something like that... i've been depressed ever since i moved out just thinking about it. there's a part of me that doesn't want to care because he's the one that would leave, but that's what hurts :/...

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/sertanejogostosinho on 2023-06-07 18:54:35+00:00.

Hello, I'm doing research on transphobia, and I would like to know some stories of people who have suffered from it, could you help me? And I'm sorry if this is a sensitive subject for you, but it's not my intention for it to be. So, have you ever suffered from transphobia?

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The original was posted on /r/transsexual by /u/Colethemoleman on 2023-06-03 17:00:37+00:00.

That's all.