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[–] Chef_Boyardee@lemm.ee 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Nothing yet, unfortunately. I've been in trouble so many times. I never learn.

I'm almost afraid to type this, but I think it's gonna take a serious incident to change me.

I'm not violent, I'm not a thief, I'm not a pervert. I refuse to hurt, or put anyone at risk of being hurt. I just make dumb decisions that affect me.

[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 2 points 3 months ago

If you find that you're having trouble always making "dumb" decisions you might want to get yourself checked out for ADHD. Because I myself have it, and medicated and unmediated isn't a SEA of difference, but it does help. Likewise, someone I know also has it and really harmed themselves with their impulse control. They kept pushing it further and further - until like you said. They're also medicated now, and while they still need to push it (I think it's hardwired) - their level of what pushing it is has come down dramatically.

[–] moistclump@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Me too and got my diagnosis which at least put those incidents into perspective and gave me help that would actually make a difference instead of just trying to judge myself into “being better” or “normal”.

[–] cashmaggot@piefed.social 2 points 3 months ago

Y, every piece I get of the puzzle better helps understand why I couldn't just be a "good little girl" so to speak. Nothing is written in a language I totally get and I am just trying my best to squiggle my way through life as a whole. One big thing I can say though, is that if you don't understand certain things you can always ask for further clarification. Write everything down that's important, because it could be gone in the blink of an eye. And don't let people take the reigns of your health. Advocate for yourself, and know that you're just one of a billion folks they see so your meet ups are way more important to you than them. Even if they're big old bleeding heart types (which is rare because it's pretty counter the skeptical analytical process necessary to work in the medical field).