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Can I be picked up from my mom's house as a date since I am an adult? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 month ago by turnerpike20@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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So she's kind of been reluctant in people knowing where she lives. And from my understanding you can just leave if you want but when it comes to her house. And since yeah it's her house I do wonder where the boundary lays. So I am an adult yes and my mom is out right now with my sister taking care of me and staying around the house which has me worried but she said she would be back either Sunday or Monday and I'm planning on taking my chances Sunday. But seriously what is the rules as it comes down to there are cameras my sister has access to so I think she might see me leaving anyway and question me on this. So what exactly are my rights as an adult? Can someone pick me up in the driveway and we just leave together and then come back home? I do think even if I leave and come back home that can show some form of trust and then I can eventually tell my mom what I did when she gets back home. I even hope I can use my recent birthday as an excuse to start dating. But the main point I want to bring up is if I can tell someone where I live and have them pick me up outside the house?

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[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 35 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Do you ever leave the house? Like to go to work or the library or to hang out with friends? Just leave as if you're doing one of those things, and then meet your date somewhere.

If you never leave the house, that is something you might consider addressing before you start dating. There can be lots of reasons to leave the house that don't involve an unwitting stranger getting pulled into your rather unique family situation.

[–] SendMePhotos@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Second. Even if you're an adult, you're in your mother's house. It sucks but it's her rules. If she doesn't want people coming to her house, then respect that. Get picked up somewhere else.

As stated in the above post, don't involve someone else by giving them permission that your mother would not give.

[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 9 points 1 month ago

For sure, best case it's like this, just respect for homeowner's property.

Also questions of abuse and confinement possibly? Which if present, needs to be addressed. And relying on an Internet stranger for an escape is 1) super unfair to the internet stranger or 2) a great way to land in an even more abusive relationship.

This one is firmly above lemmy pay grade. OP might need local support resources that can help them within their specific legal and cultural situation.