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I think we need to consider the norms Lemmites enforce. From what I've experienced: it's often nitpicks ("I think one thing you said is wrong"), or mild insults when an opinion is outside our slightly-left-of-centre POV. Disagreement is rarely friendly, gentle, or constructive.
From what I've seen, we're great at getting the big stuff right - people react quickly against child porn or overt racism/insults. But we reply with the same anger if someone has an opinion different from ours.
I have a better time in small Reddit communities because people have more shared interests. Here our prime commonality is that we like FOSS and dislike Reddit.
Hey fuck you! Thatβs total bullshit and you know it!!
Not a single comma. Tch tch tch.
I think this happens. I know I've done it but I've expressly stated my agreement with everything else but hey this one thing needs examination. I think sometimes people leave that part unsaid and maybe they forgot or maybe they just don't have good arguments against.
Note I'm not mentioning anything else. It's because I largely agree with what you've said or don't think a counterpoint would be helpful.
At this point I start with a big "I agree" and state something about it, so we have some common ground. Then, if I have further questions/disagreement then I mention it.