neurodiverse
What is Neurodivergence?
It's ADHD, Autism, OCD, schizophrenia, anxiety, depression, bi-polar, aspd, etc etc etc etc
“neurologically atypical patterns of thought or behavior”
So, it’s very broad, if you feel like it describes you then it does as far as we're concerned
Rules
1.) ableist language=post or comment will probably get removed (enforced case by case, some comments will be removed and restored due to complex situations). repeated use of ableist language=banned from comm and possibly site depending on severity. properly tagged posts with CW can use them for the purposes of discussing them
2.) always assume good faith when dealing with a fellow nd comrade especially due to lack of social awareness being a common symptom of neurodivergence
2.5) right to disengage is rigidly enforced. violations will get you purged from the comm. see rule 3 for explanation on appeals
3.) no talking over nd comrades about things you haven't personally experienced as a neurotypical chapo, you will be purged. If you're ND it is absolutely fine to give your own perspective if it conflicts with another's, but do so with empathy and the intention to learn about each other, not prove who's experience is valid. Appeal process is like appealing in user union but you dm the nd comrade you talked over with your appeal (so make it a good one) and then dm the mods with screenshot proof that you resolved it. fake screenies will get you banned from the site, we will confirm with the comrade you dm'd.
3.5) everyone has their own lived experiences, and to invalidate them is to post cringe. comments will be removed on a case by case basis depending on determined level of awareness and faith
4.) Interest Policing will not be tolerated in any form. Support your comrades in their joy!
Further rules to be added/ rules to be changed based on community input
RULES NOTE: For this community more than most we understand that the clarity and understandability of these rules is very important for allowing folks to feel comfortable, to that end please don't be afraid to be outspoken about amendments and addendums to these rules, as well as any we may have missed
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Depends a lot on what the source of my stress is
A common one for me is noise, oscillating fans and certain repetitive noises feel like nails on a chalkboard to me. Ideally I get rid of the source of the noise (turn the fan off, move it slightly so it’s not as audible, or move to a different room), if that’s not an option I have airpod pros which have noise cancelling and I just always have a podcast going (words of a podcast grab my attention better than music does)
If I’m out in public and the noise or crowd is bothering me I’ll typically go to the bathroom and just sit and close my eyes and take deep breaths. I usually have my headphones with me so if it’s real bad I’ll put them in for a minute.
If I’m at work I’ll go take a walk around the building. Thankfully I work in a lab so there’s no one watching where I am at any given time. I also get to have my headphones in almost always unless I’m talking to people. Seriously I listen to like 8 hours of podcasts a day on average.
Emergency solution is to activate the mammalian dive reflex; If you stick your face in cold water it activates a part of your lizard brain that slows down a bunch of metabolic functions to make it so you don’t drown. Those metabolic functions conveniently overlap a lot with the things that are hyperactive when you’re anxious.
Also while drugs is not the answer you’re looking for, that is also the answer I have: Medication wise I’m on Buspar and Wellbutrin, and propanalol or Xanax if it gets too bad. Also I smoke a lot of weed and vape nicotine, which in addition to their inherent effects give you a good excuse to step outside for a minute when in public.
I used to always listen to podcasts. Then I got bored of them. I need something more stimulating, but in a good way and it doesn’t really work if I still have the bad stimuli. I do the dive thing a lot, idk how helpful it is. That’s a lot of drugs and it doesn’t exactly intrigue me. Maybe I could benefit from a cocktail of drugs but it scares me.
Audiobooks maybe? My big problem with audiobooks is I need to pay too much attention to them or I get lost
Audiobooks have more information but they’re less entertaining. They only work for my adhd when I’m listening at three times speed and doing exactly one thing simultaneously.
Yeah same. And the one thing has to require very little brain power, like driving or just walking.
Buspar has done wonders for me
Same. It’s not everything, but it does like 80% of the work with absolutely no side effects.