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R as ret ar ded.

I'm from Balkans and I think there's no swearing anywhere in the world like in Balkans. We use slurs A LOT and pretty casually, so I am always surprised when I am censored on some word online.

It happened just now. The R word was removed from my comment, so I wanted to find out what's going on with it.

Since I talk to people from all around the world, I don't want to be an ignorant fool and I want to learn why it isn't ok to say something, so I can implement it without the feeling I'm being deprived of free speech.

Again, take in consideration the Balkan thing if you think I'm trolling with this post. I'm not. I swear to you, the shit we're able to say are insane and we really think it's no big deal.

So, when did R word became a slur and why it's not ok to call someone R word as an insult?

Thank you for the education. A human learns while grows and until dies.

EDIT: You're really nice community and I am really thankful you've explained this to me. As I said, I can be a Slow Poke sometimes and growing where I grew, some shit has just stuck as normal and I am glad to unlearn it. My heart is leftist, but I grew up as a Catholic in the midst of the war where we learned a lot of hateful stuff as a normal part of identity. I want to fuck it off from me, so thanks, really.

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[–] OrionsMask@hexbear.net 32 points 2 months ago (4 children)

If you believe broadly that people should be given dignity regardless of gender, sexuality, race, disability, appearance, etc. etc. etc., it should be clear that using a descriptor of those things to mean something generally negative deprives them of that dignity. You're saying they're lesser, inferior, below you, purely because they don't fit into the status quo.

[–] sweatersocialist@hexbear.net 8 points 2 months ago (3 children)

genuinely asking, hopefully this doesn't come off as some reddit snark bullshit since it's a super obvious sounding question, but what about calling things dumb, or stupid then? is that also ableist? or is it not ableist because it's more just saying something is generally bad as opposed to being specifically "r"?

[–] OrionsMask@hexbear.net 3 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

The etymology of dumb is rooted in ableism, yeah. ~~I'm not sure about stupid.~~ Those are two I struggle with to this day, because in my mind they're so detached from the ableist definitions. I've never in my life associated dumb with a mute person, for example, even though that's the definition.

~~To be completely real, I'm not sold on 'stupid' being ableist but~~ I'll try to avoid the language if it has the possibility to be harmful, e.g. I edited one of my recent comments from stupid to silly. Ignorant is another good alternative.

EDIT: Okay, yeah, the etymology of 'stupid' is also rooted in ableism.

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