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You see, that's the problem. You are implicitly devaluing sex work compared to other professions. You're not acknowledging that some people actually want to, and choose to do sex work. There's nothing wrong whatsoever with someone choosing prostitution, stripping, escort, etc.
Could you say your same statement about being a lawyer? A teacher? An engineer?
"I want to live in a world where no one feels they are struggling so much that they need to turn to being an engineer."
You see how weird that sounds? So why can you say it about sex work? Do you see how derisive you're being toward it as a profession? Funny that you say you're supportive while implying that what they're doing is a last resort...π€¦ββοΈ
I get you point but I genuinely want to live in a world where people are not forced to turn to engineering.
I chose engineering, and when I started I loved it, but eventually I ended up working in places I didn't like, on jobs that made me feel dirty, but now I don't know any other way to maintain the lifestyle I'm accustomed to.
Have you thought about stripping?
Made you feel dirty physically or mentally?
Why not both?
I think the error is on your side. Nothing that OC said denies that some sex workers like and choose what they do. These exist.
But itβs doubtable that these are in majority, and nothing what you say acknowledges that many many sex workers donβt have much choice.
Check yourself dude. The mere fact that you say "it's doubtable these are in the majority" shows EXACTLY what you think of sex work. Your attitude of "ugh that's so pitiful, no one would do that willingly, they must be forced into it" is fucking offensive.
Millions of people feel stuck in their jobs and "don't feel like they have much choice." Walmart, coffee shops, data entry, whatever. But if it's sex work, all of a sudden it's something to be ashamed of?
Yeah, sure there's trafficking out there, and that is horrible. But don't conflate the two. Don't just assume that someone doing sex work is being trafficked. Just like you don't constantly assume someone doing any other job must also be a trafficked slave or something. Get it?
Pretty sure I currently have the Philippines and Thailand more in mind than you.
Written like a defensive john. Sorry she didnt enjoy fucking you bro