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I think you should not feel like an idiot in this case. Just keep in mind that EVERYONE can fall for a scam, even the experts. The people who think they wouldn't are themselves likely victims.
Idk, I think feeling like an idiot is important, because it shows that I should have known better and can do better next time. I only fell for it because I was in a hurry and away from my normal routine (I'd usually jump on my computer and verify pending transactions before giving any codes).
And that's all it really takes, you could be tired from travel (we had just driven the entire previous day) or whatever, and a few minutes later your money is already on its way out of your account. Something similar happened to Rachel Cruz recently (from Ramsey Solutions), and that's someone who would absolutely know better since she likely takes calls from victims of scams as well.
I guess my advice to everyone is, it can always wait a few days, almost nothing in life is so urgent that it has to be done today. If you feel like you're a little out of sorts, hang up and deal with it later. That would've prevented this problem entirely, and would also prevent most other scams as well.
I don't think "feeling like an idiot" is productive. People helping scam victims try to make them not feel embarrassed, as it can get in the way of thinking rationally about this.
Idk, if you put all of the blame on the scammer, there's less reason to change behavior to prevent the next time. It's fine if it's to get past the initial anxiety and start making progress toward a solution, but that feeling of being stupid really motivates me to change my behavior to protect myself better.
You shouldn't blame yourself for causing the problem, but you should recognize the actions you should have taken to prevent the problem. If you don't have at least some shame, why would you do something different the next time?