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I'm relatively young and yeah, I barely ever party. Never did it much as a teen, and I do it even less as an adult in my 20's. It's just not all that fun to me.
As an avid fan of festivals and raves, house parties are kind of boring man. I would suggest giving a good club a try and maybe working your way up to a rave or fest.
Whole different ball game, you're there with hundreds to thousands of people in good spirits with the same mindset. I've met really cool and genuine people at these places, people you'd never hope to meet out in "the real world"
No, I get you. I'm sure that's fun. I mean, I have awesome fun when I go to concerts I like, like Green Day or Gorillaz (yeah, I like old music lol).
But if you don't do drugs, and you don't even enjoy electronic music all that much, I don't really see much point to raves, clubs and that stuff. Especially if most of your friends aren't into that stuff either.
Drugs are definitely part of the fun (really they are common at any kind of public music event), but if you don't like electronic music, you probably aren't going to like raves even on them.
You could go to concerts then? Also, electronic music festivals aren't the only kind of festival out there. There are also metal festivals, rock festivals, hip-hop, etc. I've been to a good bit of those myself, I actually also am a big fan music like green day and gorillaz, first time I ever saw gorillaz was at a festival.
Ah yeah, I go to concerts pretty often. Radiohead, Green Day, Gorillaz, plenty of local rock, jazz and hip hop bands. But I don't really count that as "partying" as I usually go for the music first.
I'm gonna go off on a limb and say that person's above 21. Some of us just ain't into that much.
There's a difference between hanging out with friends and partying
Why do you have to party to have friendships?
Their point is that not everyone is into partying. Some of us would rather kick back at a friends/our house and chill. I don’t need to drink to have fun.
There's so much more to friendship than just partying
I'm 25, so nah, not really. I enjoy spending time with my friends, but more like, going to get coffee or playing tabletop games. Maybe playing online games and cursing each other out.
But I can't remember the last time I went to a bar or a club. I was probably in college. I don't find much interesting to do when I go to places like that, so I just leave work early and go hang out at my friend's place with a couple beers, or something. We rarely go out to clubs at all anymore.
That’s you but there are plenty of us where the novelty of binge drinking got immature fast. Don’t get me wrong, I partied in my 20s but the way I carried myself when drunk, the dumb shit I did, the after effects of the hangover… definitely gets old. (If I could go back I think of would have impressed far more people, and more girls, had I not had a goal to get shitfaced with everyone and I don’t even consider myself a sloppy drunk.)
Also, at a certain age I think a lot of people realize that your drinking buddies are not necessarily your friends. When drinking is removed as your common activity it surprising how little you have in common with some people and who is really willing to stick their neck out for you in a time of need.
As a parent, my goal is to never let my kids see me drunk/buzzed. I want them to know they can always depend on me, and that I’m always clear headed and in a mental state to provide whatever might be needed (unexpected trip to the ER anyone?). Always on duty.