Meme: Phoebe and Joey conversation.
P: I'm autistic, so my brain works differently
J: You're autistic, so your brain works differently
P: Sometimes I misunderstand social situations without any awareness
J: Sometimes you misunderstand social situations without any awareness
P: But I respond very well to direct and respectful communication
J: But you respond very well to direct and respectful communication
P: So pls talk to me instead of punishing me
J: So I'm not punishing you the right way!
Baby Boomers never bothered to learn better ways to do things, and most of them seemed to have had kids from a sense of obligation, rather than any genuine want. They spent our childhoods reveling in their own ignorance, basking in their failing-upward careers, and gaslighting anyone smarter or more educated than themselves - which, of course, includes their own children.
My dad loved to quote "spare the rod, spoil the child"