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Hi fellow lolita! It's such a pain trying to discuss the fashion with people who aren't already into Japanese fashion. I feel weird every time I try to mention it because of the book. Also it's so much deeper than people on the outside think! There's tons of nuance in the brands and sub-styles and it all sounds so pedantic to outsiders. Have you been watching Tyler's new videos?
yeah its incredibly difficult to explain to just random's especially if you are out in public wearing it. Ugh. And I learned early on to just not say the name Lolita unless the other person said it first.
I was never really a Tyler fan and I've never enjoyed the cattiness of the community. That part was disappointing for me because it felt like I couldn't make friends through this hobby. It's why I stopped going to meet up's for it too. It felt like paying to have friends who weren't even interested in actually being friends through a shared interest.