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The original was posted on /r/bestofredditorupdates by /u/Choice_Evidence1983 on 2024-10-30 04:00:09+00:00.

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Character-Coach1656

Originally posted to r/AITAH

AITA for "giving" my 16 year old sister a criminal record?

Trigger Warnings: emotional abuse, animal cruelty, destruction of property, killing of a pet

Original Post: October 17, 2024

Just for context I am NC with my younger sister after finally opening my eyes to her constant emotional abuse towards me, to which she burnt her bridge telling me that she'd only consider me a sister when I prove myself to her. Told her there was nothing to prove and that I'd been nothing but a good sister (I was to the point where i chose to take the fall for her wrongs every time and was there to fix her mistakes all the time).

My sister 16F killed my cat Whiskey a 4 year old female cat because she didn't like my cat and "you didn't need the thing because you now own a rat."

Just for context we do own a rat and he is mainly for my bf, with whom I am staying with. We've had our boy for almost a month and a half. Anyway my sister found out and did what she did despite my warning because she had threatened me about Whiskey before when she was telling me how she hated me and that I needed to fetch my cat because she'd kill it if I didn't, to which I told her she harm my cat in any form or way I wouldn't hesitate to give her a record to which she challenged me.

Whiskeys living arrangements were between my father and I, my dad didn't mind keeping Whiskey with him and I was sending money for food and medicine when my cat needed. My dad reassured me that nothing would happen to my cat and that once I could I can fetch her until then he would help we with her until I found a place where my neighbors dogs wouldn't maul my cat. My neighbors dogs don't do well with small animals or babies, and Whiskey was a wandering type.

Anyways now my sister has a criminal record as an animal abuser because, I also informed the police that she owned a deaf pit bull puppy which ran away and she just refused to go look for the puppy because she was bored of the "thing" when they asked if there were any other instances. My dad is now saying I am an AH for sticking to my guns and that she's my little sister and I shouldn't get the law involved in our "sibling rivalry". So I am wondering if I was the AH?

Her records have blacklisted her with every registered breeders/pet-stores and her cat was taken away along with my fathers dog because she is a danger to animals, some of her friends parents have told my sister she is not allowed in their homes because they have pets, she's also not allowed to own any animals and will be sent to prison if she's caught. As for my fathers dog it is a temporary removal until my sister has attended 14 therapy sessions before the end of this year which she's already refusing.

If you're wondering how I know she killed my cat,

EDIT: WARNING FROM LEMMIT ADMIN - THIS IS DISGUSTING. DO NOT READ THIS SPOILER

So am I the AH for "giving" my sister a criminal record?

AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA

Relevant Comments

Commenter 1: I think this one is a no-brainer. You are NOT an AH. Your sister is sick. Severely. And your father needs to focus on that problem rather than blaming you for her experiencing the consequences of being absolutely evil.

OOP: I feel the same way, but there's still a part of my that feels like I should have been a better sister or even a daughter. Because I do feel bad that my dad lost his dog due to what's happened, but I don't know. Just got that nibble of guilt for following through because he got hurt in the process.

OOP showing their dad the video regarding the sister’s behaviors

You read correctly. I did infact show my dad, and he said it wasn't so serious and that you can hear in her voice that she is joking.

Trust me, i don't understand his logic. But what I do know is he is trying to make up being an absent father for 13 years by giving my sister what she wants and "parenting" her because he didn't get to do the same for me (I left home before he "got it right").

As for my sister, I've noticed her changes since she was 12. No one sees it, and I feel a little to blame for how she's turned out because I raised her since she was 2 weeks old (we're 5 years apart).

Here's the kicker. Not even CPS wants anything to do with my sister because we were both in the system since she was 5, and we got out 7 years later. CPS wants nothing to do with my sister because she is a problem to deal with even for them. The court ruled that CPS would not deal with a difficult child like my sister to protect CPS from her. Seriously, if that didn't scream, she needed help, then I don't know.

My father did the same with our mother. He either buried his head away, or he added fuel to the flames. Makes me seriously wonder how I'm the most "normal" in my family.

OOP on knowing if her sister has some mental issues and if there is a disorder matching the sister’s behavior

OOP: I've done a lot of research on a lot of different things, and she fits a lot of descriptions. I have a feeling she's BPD like our mother was with something else because we both inherited the gene. Mine is dormant, so I am safe because bpd does not wake up once you're an adult.

Update: October 23, 2024

Hey everyone hope all is well. I thought I'd give an update on what's happening and what's transpired over the course of a Monday to today.

As I'm writing this my bf is in the shower as we just came from court, because I had to bail him out. Those who were concerned for my safety were very right to be concerned, my sister is a lost cause.

Monday evening my bf was arrested for assault in our own home after a call was sent out by a "distressed" child 20 minutes before they arrived, the police said they were able to restrain my bf before he could harm my sister anymore, yes, you read correctly. My sister was in our apartment, how? I'll tell you soon enough. But she was in our apartment, when I saw her I'm not lying when my blood ran cold and boiled at the same time. She was huddled to a police officer crying and sniffling like a scared little girl, her body covered in bruises that looked new, she also had fresh cuts on her body which I didn't know where it came from.

Anyway I got hold of the family lawyer explaining the situation, he knew of my sister court order for therapy because he appealed for it. I was told he couldn't take my case because he couldn't represent the family against the family, but he was helpful in directing me to another lawyer who is helping us now. Anyway our lawyer has gotten the security footage of what's happened and the charges of assault on my bf are pended but not removed until we've won the case.

In the mean time the footage showed her breaking into my apartment, destroying alot of things. She broke the tank our rat was in allowing escape, she then waited... she waited an hour for someone to come back home, unfortunately it was my bf and 5 minutes before that she phoned someone looking frightened. The video has no audio but from what my bf says he was asking what she was doing there, how she even found us and to get out because she's not welcome. The footage showed her refusal and how my bf threatened to call the police on her, she was unphased so he tried getting her to leave as gently as possible because she was still my sister. She lost it and started attacking him, clawing, biting, kicking, hitting. He immediately pudhed her away and she went at him, he tripped her to the ground to she hit her head on the wall because he didn't think it through. My bf is not a woman beater nor would he of ever hit a woman, but in the next moment she got up and swung at my bf with a wrench

Bf was to late to miss it hit him in the head and he go angry, grabbed the wrench from her, you saw him toss it aside before he got her pinned to the floor as he tried contacting the police, but they arrived and broke our door down because my sister hand started yelling help and that my bf was trying to kill her. Where the wrench came from it was seen her taking something from his personal mechanic tool box before bf came home.

Monday evening was hell, as I spent it at the police station trying to get them to understand that my sister wasn't supposed to be in our apartments, but the police wouldn't believe me because they knew what they saw. The lawyer could only get to me yesterday along with footage and other evidence, everything is still being processed and my sister is now being restrained in an mental hospital until then because of her previous charge.

As for now the apartment is still a mess, It's still a crime scene. Our rat was found hiding in a corner of our apartment, clearly afraid because he bit the police officer who found him. His now safely back with us, as for now we are all living with trust friends o...

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