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if someone close to you just goes "lol boring" while you were talking about what happened in class/work, how would that make you feel? (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by Alunyanners@lemmygrad.ml to c/askchapo@hexbear.net

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would you be wrong for "finding it rude" simply because your friend didn't?

is it acceptable for them to justify themselves just going "lol boring" if they meant it for the topic and not you? like, should you magically no longer feel hurt anymore?

are you in the wrong for saying how just saying "lol boring" hurts you and requesting for them to say it more differently? that you're just being defensive?

all while they claim how you're "blaming them for everything", want them to change themselves to please you, to force themselves to "enjoy what you're talking about", to not be able to dislike topics when 1. you didn't say any of this, 2. you just wanted them to be more nice/compassionate and considerate of your feelings.

like, i'm sure we can all agree that there are better ways to say that what the person is talking about doesn't really interest you all that much but they can keep going if they want. or hell, just not mentioning at all and just listening to them.

i feel like literally any of this would be better instead of just going "lol boring" and get all defensive about it and accuse you of being defensive all you did was expressing hurt and wanting them to say it differently.

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[–] mathemachristian@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Had that happened to me in voice chat, someone asked me about maths class I talked about my studies, not even what I study but like basic concepts of how best to study math and one kept interrupting with "omg thats so boringggg".

Like excuse me it's what I do day in and day out, to me it isn't and clearly not to the other person because they kept asking follow up questions. I think she was just playing into the "lol maths boring and useless amirite" trope so would have gotten pretty defensive I think because she would have needed to justify it post-hoc so I let it go but it still felt pretty shit.

And yeah part of why I don't talk about stuff I like, like video games and math and communism is because it alienates people and I do feel a bit lonely sometimes.