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What makes a "good vegan", and how can I be one? (feddit.online)

submitted 2 weeks ago by Binzy_Boi@feddit.online to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hey all,

So I recently decided to go vegan. My personal reasons for ditching animal products were because of environmental factors, animal welfare, and trying to maintain consistency with the values I hold to their logical ends.

I was curious. I've seen a lot of hate towards vegans online, admittedly being someone who partook in that several years ago myself to a small degree. While I'm glad and very lucky people I know closely have been making accommodations for me, I'm also worried about mentioning or bringing it up to people I'm getting to know since I don't want to rub them the wrong way if they possibly have these notions that being vegan and veganism are a bad thing. Namely when it's relevant in conversation like people asking me why I read ingredients lists or can't have something they're offering me, which I've been half-lying attributing to food allergies and intolerances out of worry (I'm lactose intolerant, which helps as a cop-out).

I'm wanting to know what people dislike about vegans, whether they're based on previous experiences they've had, or preconceived notions, and what would make someone a "good vegan" in their eyes. I know I shouldn't be a people-pleaser, but knowing this stuff would definitely help me gain the confidence to be more open about myself and my personal values to others who don't necessarily share said values.

Thanks in advance, I'll try to respond where possible, but it's going to be a busy day for me, though I do read all replies to posts I make.

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[–] jjjalljs@ttrpg.network 6 points 2 weeks ago

I don't think there are good arguments for eating meat, and I think people get mad at vegans because of the cognitive dissonance. "If eating meat is bad, and I eat meat, then I'm bad. But I'm not bad! They must be bad! They suck!"

Sometimes you see this with other things. Like if someone walks or takes a bike instead of driving for the environment. "If driving is bad for the environment, and I do a lot of driving, I'm doing bad. But I'm a good person! Fuck them for making me feel bad!"

Most people are just large children.

Sometimes people try to justify eating meat. Some reasons are more defensible than others. Someone with severe allergies might have trouble getting nutrition from vegan options. Someone saying "but I enjoy it" is acting like a child.

In short, most people are operating mostly on emotional levels. Facts don't really matter. Feelings drive them. I think this is the root of most of our problems, honestly, that people can't put aside their emotions.

Personally, I try to minimize how much meat I eat, but I'm okay with accepting sometimes I do bad things.