How do you handle being misunderstood? (lemmy.world)

submitted 10 months ago by PlanetOfOrd@lemmy.world to c/adhd@lemmy.world

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I'm sure lots of ADHDers know what I mean. Situations where you're not meaning ill intent, but the way that a situation turns out makes it seem like you're the bad guy/girl.

How do you handle the situation without seeming like a victim or that you're making excuses for yourself? Do you explain the situation or just accept it and hope that enough time will reveal your true character?

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[-] emperorgormet@sh.itjust.works 13 points 10 months ago

I am struggling deeply with this now. I have found that trying to justify or explain what happens normally just falls on deaf ears and seems like I’m making excuses. I seem to continue to have this happen and it’s sort of started to become my true colors. I would suggest being accountable. Even if you mean well, and are not at fault or whatever it’s good to own the issue and work to move past it. Making excuses or explaining often just looks like you are trying to buck the blame.

Idk if I’m the best person to advise on this but that is my mentality moving forward!

[-] aloopapu@toot.community 6 points 10 months ago

@emperorgormet @PlanetOfOrd I agree I find it helps people if you talk about how things are for you when you are not bringing them a problem.

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