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I literally had a birthday picnic last sat with a bunch of incredibly attractive and intelligent women who would not shut the fuck up about bg3. Dude lost nothing of value
I was at a house party a couple years ago and had like a 45 minute long conversation about attack on titan with a group of women who did not seem to fit into the anime demographic at all. I didn't even initiate it. The whole time in my head I was like "wtf is happening right now."
Ive met girls who spend most of their free time gaming complain things like "all he does is game, hes going no where". Some people have dumb standards for first impressions or are just straight up hypocrites.
That said, in our hyper competitive online dating bullshit timeline, OP should have thought of one of their more interesting skills and hobbys, even if they don't do it as often. Something like "sometime i cook a nice dinner on fridays" or "i like to ice fish in the winter" could have gathered more interest than just games. Even sticking to the gaming genre but mentioning a weekly board game meet sounds more attractive than solo gaming. It isn't necessarily the most fair but we gotta sell our selves even more when trying to connect digitally. There is no body language or other aspects to observe, your handful of pictures and texting is all you got to make a shot, for example, I game more than i ice fish, gaming is less commitment in time, energy, and money, but ice fishing is the more interesting and skill diverse hobby so I'd choose that over gaming for first impressions
Ironically, you're treating dating like a strategy game. Don't.
If you have to lie about who you are, you're gonna get a shit deal
I don't lie about who I am, i just put forward my more interesting qualities before admiting i play 2 hours of minecraft a day. I also don't participate in online dating.
I'd also rather a girl recomend we go ice fishing together as a date than play a game online as a date, so i often put forward my hobbies that are easier to do with other people, like mountain biking or going to a rock climbing gym in hopes of finding some common interests we can share in person.
Or you could be me, many hobbies but due to crippling ADHD I'm the only one who cares about them and they don't all jive well with each other's stereotypical "group" (like say I enjoy running but also enjoy unhealthy eating, for example). Every woman could VERY easily find a hobby of mine they think is neat, AND one they think is "bad," and maybe even one we share, but I contain too many multitudes of unfinished thoughts and products to judge me on the one mentioned when put on the spot (cause that's probably just the project I paused today.)
Embellishing? Its still lieing to imply you mostly do broadly interesting things when you actually play minecraft for two hours a day.
I play rocket league for a few hours a day and I would not be shy to mention that quickly. The person you replied to is right, if you put forward yourself honestly then you might actually find someone who likes you. Girls play minecraft too, in case you weren't aware.
I'm not embellishing anything. Ice fishing is a hobby I am more interested in and enjoy more than gaming. I have more good stories about ice fishing than I do about gaming. I also find it leaves more potential to further the conversation. Maybe she likes to fish on a boat in the summer, or maybe they have experiences from their childhood ice fishing they want to share.
I am a very outdoors person and I'd like my partner to be the same, so when I meet a potential partner, i like to start by finding out if they have any outdoor passions.
You should probably be upfront that you somehow are an outdoorsman who plays minecraft for multiple hours a day.
dude, nothing wrong with playing 2 hours of vidya per day if it's balanced out, thats about 12% of the available time of a day if you sleep 8 hours.
I don't get it why gaming still has so much pushback. If he said he watches one overlength movie every day in the evening, there wouldn't be any discussion here 🙄
I don't think the poster has issues with video games, it seems their issue is I don't prioritize sharing my gaming experiences before sharing my more interesting qualities. I guess i should just have a list of every game I've ever played and every tv show I've ever watched ready for my next first date that way I don't "embellish" my lifestyle by saying I like to fish on the weekends.
To be fair, you are the only one that has said they are embarrassed to tell people you play a video game.
Also fishing on the weekend is for dorks, grow up already.
I never claimed to be embarrassed, i just claimed it isn't my most interesting feature and don't put it forward when meeting someone new. Id rather talk about my job or other more interesting hobbies.
I'm sorry I was being a troll a bit there. I would say to be more clear, if the person asked you directly what you do after work to relax, I'd say you should probably include the minecraft otherwise I would consider that a lie by omission. Its a trivial ultimately unimpactful lie, but it does say something about someone's character if they are ashamed or embarassed of their own hobbies.
Gaming isn't bad. The poster originally said he would hide something he spends 2 hours a day on and then changed it to, I share more interesting things first. Whatever, my point is you shouldnt play games with people because you will only end up hurting yourself in the long run. People hiding parts of themselves from potential partners is so common but its deceptive and most people wouldnt want their partner to lie or be deceptive.
But if I watched TV every evening for 2 hours before sleep, and don't share that on a first date, would that still be "deceptive"? Well, a lot of people would say thats hardly shareworthy at all. But if it's Minecraft it suddendly is?
Depends what they asked you. Ive already stated the whole point is to be honest so you get back what you put out. I can restate that another time if you'd like but I'm not sure why you are still replying.
I've tried treating it like a MOBA, but I always use my ult too early.
He killed the vibe with talking about anime, gaming has gone quite mainstream, and is not perceived as nerdy anymore, as 10-20 years ago
Buddy wait until you hear about how anime is perceived nowadays....
Still much less mainstream than gaming.