Oof. Well, I'm disappointed but I refuse to let it ruin my day. I also tend to think that the band saying they had no idea is a stretch, but I empathize with someone who rationalizes away suspected bad behavior of a long term friend. I can't say with 100% confidence that I wouldn't do the same, as long as there was enough plausible deniability. If they disavowed him immediately upon it coming to light, well, I guess that's better than praying for forgiveness and healing or whatever, even if they had thought his behavior was suspect beforehand and not acted on it. Perfect can't be the enemy of good, and I'm just so fucking tired man...