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If my eife agreed to go to couples therapy, that's the best realistic thing. Well, I don't know how realistic it is.
Best of luck
It's been said that 90% of luck is preparation, and I've done about all the preparation I can do on this one.
My wife had been after me to go to couples therapy. I was convinced we didn't need it. After a while, I just scheduled something and sent her an appointment notice. Figured if she thought we needed it, I'd give it a try.
She called the therapist and cancelled our appointment soon after i sent her the notice. She claimed, "we didn't need to spend money on that right now." She hasn't brought it up since.
No idea what that was about
You're better than them!
This is not a "I don't want therapy because I'm not invested in the relationship" situation. This is a "I have a deep distrust of medical professionals due to past trauma" situation.