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A guy I met online kept flirting with me and suggesting we be in a relationship when I have a girlfriend, I had to block him. Please give me encouragement so I don’t feel bad :( (lemmy.ml)
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I’m in a happy relationship with a woman, but some man I talked to once kept messaging me and suggesting we be in a relationship. I blocked him once several months ago (back when I was single because I was uninterested) and then unblocked him.

Sure enough, when I went to check in with him and see how life was going, I made a mistake. he was at it again and kept suggesting again that we be in a relationship.

He seems like a good friend and he seems nice enough but he seems like he would objectify me too much even if I were to be in an open relationship if all he cares about is being mine and not who I am.

I didn’t want to deal with it, so I decided to block him, but I feel bad 😓. Plus, I’ll be friends with people but I’ll block if they suggest I date them, especially when I’m dating.

It’s a bit different now because I’m legal, but I remember during my first days of posting on the internet (c. 2014) there were guys who looked around my age now claiming to be like 15 even though they looked about ten years older. Luckily, I blocked them too and even got my first boyfriend then! 🙂

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 days ago

Well, good for you, enforcing a boundary. It's actually a difficult thing to do

I wanna warn you of something though. You said he seems like a good friend, and nice enough. There is nothing nice about any of the things you said he did, and someone doing them is not only not a good friend, they're no friend at all.

Blocking him was not only the best choice for you, it's the best for him. Guys like that have to learn that being a pressuring jerk isn't acceptable.